To think the nursery should have contacted me?

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Not sure about this but I wish they would have.

When DP went to pick up DS he was told that DS had been bitten by another child today. The little boy bit him so hard that he broke the skin through his jumper (Apparently he clung on until one of the teachers removed him). The teacher said DS was hysterical and he was still quite shaken and sobbing when he got home (He's not really a crier when it comes to getting hurt)

Now I know kids bite and it's usually no big deal (My niece was a biter and bit DS quite a few times but not to this degree) the nursery put an ice pack and a bandage on it and said they will take steps to make sure this never happens again which is great! But I do wish they had rang me to let me know this had happened and gave the option to take him home.

His arm is quite bruised and sore looking and DS is now reluctant to go back incase it happens again and the other boy "makes angry faces" at him. He said he cried for me and DP.

I probably am! But it wasn't nice :(.

Sorry to hear about your ds.

I think for everyone who would want to have the option of picking their hurt child up, there would be another parent who would want the nursery to deal with it and not distract them from work or whatever. So I wouldn't be upset with the nursery for not letting you know. I'd let them know that in future you'd prefer to be informed if your ds is upset for a prolonged period, and I'm sure they'd be happy to do that.

I am a working parent so I know how difficult is is to be called at work, but given how very upset he was, I think the yshould have rung yuo and let you decide what to do, I feel for your little one, sounds so scary for him

When I was a room leader at nursery - If I had called a parent everytime they injured themselves or were bitten I would have spent half my time on the phone and annoyed a lot of the parents.

Yes I agree they could have contacted you - I am a nanny and I would like to be informed if DC had been hurt at pre-school. But you are paying them to care for your child and make descisions in your abscence. I would not contact my boss (again am a nanny) if the child was bitten, but may if they fell badly of the climbing frame. With a bite you can't do anything ie doctors/medicine etc so they were just continuing the care of your child as there was no other viable option.

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Not sure really... as if you had gone and picked him up immediately and taken him home, he would possibly be even more reluctant to go back.. they dealt with it.

If the bite broke the skin, they should have contacted you as your DS may need a jab; unlikely, but worth checking. Some good guidance here. This is ONLY if the skin was broken.

I would now be asking nursery what steps they are going to take to protect the other children from being bitten, now they have a foreseeable risk.

I'm torn. DS has been bitten several times (he's very tasty) and I wouldn't have wanted to be informed, but then he didn't need picking up, he wasn't very upset for very long and it would have been an unnecessary interruption. I think I would want to know if he was inconsolably upset.

My DS' nursery will call us for injuries, that are medium to significant. There was a biter there that kept targetting DS and they called me when the biter broke the skin. They normally phone me to say DS has fallen over again and was a bit upset, has had an icepack, he has a bump on head and then I have the option to make a choice, and that works for me.

re him being upset to go back, if he is old enough, try and explain to DS to avoid him or if biter goes toward him, for DS to put his hand up adn out in front and say no. That worked for my DS. It allowed him to stand up for himself, but not push or retaliate.

I would let your nursery know what your preferences are.
sam

Good advice flibberty; I would just disagree with one point- I would never advise a child (or anyone) to put their hand up when approached by a child known to bite. The temptation may be too great, and bite injuries to hands can be very serious indeed.

Thanks for your replies. :)

DS has had lot's of little injuries since he started. I would never expect them to contact me for everything but I really think this was an exception. In DSs words "I screamed and he wouldn't let go" and the fact that he managed to break the skin through DSs jumper. I guess DS just didn't feel safe wanted to be away from the child and at home (I know I would want to be as far away as possible from someone who bit me like that!)

Thanks for the link tether, I have been keeping an eye on it for any signs of infection. It seems fine, Just abit swollen and red around the place where he was bleeding.

His teachers are lovely and were upset that it has happened but I think I will ask nicely to be phoned if this happens in the future.

I would have wanted the nursery to have contacted me, yes. I think you should have been given the option of taking him home if he was so upset.