in getting this gift

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a friend of mine has just given birth to her second child, she has everything she needs as it is a pink flavour, just like her eldest, and has a lot of family that have also bought loads of stuff for the new born. So I suggested we purchase a nice set of smellies, or a gift voucher for the local salon so she can have a treat for herself, and DP had just looked at me like I'm mad and says but that's not for the baby, but I think she's been pg for 9 months, had to give birth and could probably do with a nice treat for herself.

AIBU? Should I just get her more baby stuff to clutter up there house?

Just to add, I have also made a dolls moses basket for their eldest daughter after confirming this was ok with the mum, which I think is why DP thinks not getting something for the new born is unfair

a voucher for the salon is a lovely idea

A present for the new mother is perfectly reasonable and a nice idea. We got our pregnant family worker some nice bath bubbles (posh ones) to make her feel nice (smile)

Loads of baby stuff is shite anyway. Most of it doesn't get used.

YANBU and I'm sure that she'll be very grateful to you for the very reasons you mention. If it makes your DH feel better he could always buy a token gift for the baby too.

i'm 35 weeks an i would love that YANBU that's a lovely gift.

A gift for mum sounds great - I would love if someone gave me a voucher for some pampering when I pop with DS2 in a couple of months. After 3/4 months of night feeds I sure I would feel like going for some treatments to make me feel more human.

Your DH is being a bit silly - the baby will not know who gave her a gift. If he insists the baby must have something can you make a contribution to a savings account or something for her? Saves on more baby clutter and will be useful in future.

Or how about a collection of classic fairytales, etc. that will be appreciated in the future?

I think it's a lovely idea, a friend did the same for me after I had DS2 as she said everyone would have given me gifts for the baby.

I waited till mothers sag and went for a gorgeous massage and facial, bliss

Mothers sag?

Typo, or a case of your brain typing what you were thinking about the gradual slip down of a parent's morale?

YANBU I'm 35 weeks & thinking of linking this thread on my fb page!

id much rather have the salon voucher!
one of my friends bought me a lush gift box after i had my dd and that was the best thing i got! babies have loads of stuff

It's a lovely idea. I bet the "mum" will be delighted!

a great idea, just buy a token pressie for the baby too like an inscibed book for when she is older or a practcal box of baby stuff that you know friend will use like wipes, nappies etc. Or a small photo frame for her first picture.

I am just packing up the unworn 0-3 month outfits given to dd2 for nct sale or eBay . Say no more-your idea is lovely .

What about a good children album. I have natalie merchant leave your sleep It's a collection of poems she put to music. Totally love it and it helps calm DS and i down for an afternoon nap.

My friend bought me perfume after I had my dd1, I was very touched.