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Original poster

to have run over the patronising leaflet distribute who tried to direct me off my drive?

22 replies

SoupDragon · 22/02/2012 12:37

I know how to get my car off my drive without hitting any of the surrounding vehicles, thank you very much. It is a manoeuvre I perform at least twice a day, every day.

I didn't run him over, obviously. I just smiled sweetly and ignored him.

Yes, I know he was only being nice and helpful.

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hobnobsaremyfavourite · 22/02/2012 12:39

Blimey you can't win in life, be helpful and you are annoying, don't be helpful and you are.......annoying.

JerichoStarQuilt · 22/02/2012 12:40

Yeah, that is quite odd. Surely it would occur to most people that you'd know how to park on your own drive?

What did he do, exactly, btw? Hand gestures or the full on shouting directions? I need to know so I can judge.

WorraLiberty · 22/02/2012 12:41

YANBU

I'm perfectly capable of opening a shop door so the next time someone does it for me, I'm going to kick the fucking bastard's head in.

aldiwhore · 22/02/2012 12:41

I think you probably could do with an anger management course.

If he was of no help, then meh. If you didn't require his service, then you can also ignore him.

My FIL is over helpful, I ignore him or ask him to move as I can't see.

Cammelia · 22/02/2012 12:42

He wouldn't have done it to a man

nickelDorritt · 22/02/2012 12:42

worra - that one's a two-edged sword.
i get annoyed if i've got it and i'm fine (usually because they stand in the fecking way ), but i also get annoyed if i need help and none is forthcoming.

aldiwhore · 22/02/2012 12:42

Actually you did smile sweetly, okay, YANBU. Of course YWBU if you has ran him over.

SarahStratton · 22/02/2012 12:43

YANBU. I'd have driven forwards and re-reversed to make sure I'd finished the bastard off.

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SoupDragon · 22/02/2012 12:45

Why do I need an anger management course? Did I run him over? Did I swear at him? No, as I said I smiled sweetly and ignored him.

It was gestures - the whole turn the wheel... stop... mind the car there kind of thing.

It would have been far more helpful of him had he filed his fast food leaflet in the recycling box thus saving me the trouble :)

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SarahStratton · 22/02/2012 12:47

You mean you didn't ram it down his throat first?

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SoupDragon · 22/02/2012 12:48

I would never actually be rude to anyone who is offering help.

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JerichoStarQuilt · 22/02/2012 12:48

It is kind of annoying when someone tries to direct you though - inevitably they are distracting you and likely in the way, so it is fair enough to be a bit annoyed, especially if you stay polite about it.

I get this and always wind my window down and explain I find it a lot easier without an audience, but some people just don't know how to shut up. It's like the kind of person who can't see you try to unpick a knot without grabbing the string out of your hands ... kindly meant, but fucking irritating! Grin

EauDeLaPoisson · 22/02/2012 12:48

I once was directed to park in a parking space at uni as big as a football field. yeah thanks for pointing the space you need me to park in out to me- what wasn't needed was the 'left a bit, right a bit, stopppp' type gestures from the kindly OAP! Grrr!! Us little women need telling you see!

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SoupDragon · 22/02/2012 12:49

sarah, that would have necessitated me parking the car back on the drive, opening the from door, doing the ram ming and then starting the whole "driving off the drive" scenario again. Probably with more help.

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imnotmymum · 22/02/2012 12:50

I hate that it is sooooo patronising waving you into parking spots etc never do it to my Husband also yellow jacket people at school events etc telling me where to park I can see I am not stupid I am a grown up

EauDeLaPoisson · 22/02/2012 12:54

Once at an event I was uber rebellious and parked in a different spot to where I had been 'directed' to. No doubt it was because I was a 'thick blonde woman' rather than being a stubborn cow!!

SarahStratton · 22/02/2012 12:55

But sooooo worth it Grin

JerichoStarQuilt · 22/02/2012 12:56

The most bizarre experience I had was an elderly man who kept waving and gesturing at me as I worked my way out of a tight space, and just as I was out and about to drive off came up to my window to say 'if you'd only listen I could have got you in there perfectly!'.

Erm, yes - but I was trying to get out! Grin

upahill · 22/02/2012 12:59

My grandad (who died last year) used to do this.
I remember being little in my dad's car and him doing it to my dad and my dad would be trying not to swear out of the corner of his mouth and my mum covering up her mouth trying not to laugh.

He would say in a very slow voice 'Steady......Steady'

It's still a family catchphrase!

alisonsmum · 22/02/2012 13:01

oh you are def NBU

as the owner of a gorgeous new mumbus car i worried id have trouble parking on our narrow street. However i have discovered im actually shit hot at parking said car :o and i would be very very miffed if the leaflet guy started directing me

imnotmymum · 22/02/2012 13:02

My DH always says "crashing " when i meet a car on a corner [we live in narrow bendy road country] now kids start to say it to him and he gets soo annoyed ha ha

SusanneLinder · 22/02/2012 13:18

I hate patronising people that try to "help".If I wanted your bloody help I would ask for it, thanks very much. But then I admit to being a grumpy old bag :o

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