To expect more than two weeks notice for a wedding invitation?

[karismatik]

Just learned that a cousin's wedding (that we knew was happening sometime soon) is in less than two weeks' time. The invitation is "in the post"!

As I and DH have to book time off work and we will have to write letters to their schools for permission for DC to go too, AIBU to think this is really too short notice? The worst thing is I know that if we didn't go there would be much falling out and annoyance in the family.

6 weeks is traditional and I think people often make the date known earlier still. YANBU

Maybe it's one of those "Don't tell the bride" type things.

If you want to go then you'll have to suck it up, if you don't then you can use the excuse that the school wouldn't give permission for the time off.

YANBU to expect more notice though.

oooh i expect you were on the reserve list!!

someone higher up the foodchain invite list has cried off last minute!

2 weeks is very short notice. Has everyone else only had two weeks notice or are you on a B list with enough 'sorry can't make its' to bump you up the list?

Either way, go if you want or don't if you don't want - let the others fallout and bicker if they want to. 2 weeks is ridiculous notice to get leave from work, outfits sorted and take the kids out of school.

YANBU but my first thought too is that you must have been on the reserve list?

Apparently not on the reserve list, have made a few calls and it seems cousin's mum has had the invitation for a while. Strange. She would be the one to take most offence if we didn't turn up. We'll try to get there as I can't face the fallout!

Could the invite have wrongly addressed or lost in the post?

DH & I did that with one of his uncles. DH's father had given us the wrong address for the uncle.

A relative of mine won some money on a TV quiz show and has subsequently given us ten months' notice of his impending flash nuptials. DH is gutted he won't have a last-minute excuse available. YABU, unless you really want to go.

Yanbu, my brother gave us 2 weeks notice for his wedding, luckily it was a saturday and took place at the end of our street. Really the thing that peed me off the most was not having much time to get an outfit sorted!

"We'll try to get there as I can't face the fallout!"

Shouldn´t you be trying to go because you want to?

If not, why bother?

YANBU to think that 2wks is short notice.

YANBU. Six weeks is usual as mshighwater says.