to be annoyed my friend inadvertently suggested my baby has ADHD?

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My baby is 5 months old and laughs quite loudly, squeals, screams in excitement (rather loudly too!) and is a bit of a wriggle bum. Always needs to be doing something, plays with a toy and then wants another one maybe 5/10 minutes later but is in general a happy baby.

A friend has made a few comments which have bothered me, one being (whilst baby is screaming) 'oh my baby is so good. we even get comments on how good she is in restaurants. We can take her anywhere and not have to worry she'll play up' whilst staring at my noisy baby in disgust

and then another corker! (whilst baby is squealing and wriggling) 'oh I havn't got much of an attention span either. I'm often told I've got ADHD'

As far as I'm concerned it shows my baby is learning is highly advanced about playing, finding voice etc.

Do I seriously need to be concerned or should I just ignore her and hope she gets a noisy toddler?

Ignore her.

I love a happy, noisy, giggling baby.... And if I was in a restaurant and you walked in I wouldn't batter an eyelid.

Karma will probably come and bite her on the bum, if not with this child, then with another. Just rise above. She doesn't sound very knowledgeable about the wide variation in normal babies.

Your baby sounds normal to me -- not so sure about friend's!!

I would ignore her and try and develop a thicker skin tbh.

Just because her baby is quiet now means jack shit - I started off with a placid one who developed his lungs later.

It IS annoying when people criticise your PFB (I remember it well, mine was told off at ten months for not sharing ffs, it still rankles now ) but I doubt she meant to be as rude as she sounded.

I had a very placid baby, she's 2 now & she has ASD.

Your baby has a short attention span at 5 months!!
I'm no expert but I think it's safe to say she is being ridiculous - whatever next, newborn refuses to focus appropriately on black and white mobile?
Before my DS could sit up he used to be happiest being held facing outwards into the street. Was quite embarrassing when the neighbours thought we were spying. He's going to grow up to coordinate the neighbourhood watch :o

I bet your little one brightens the day of anyone that s/he comes into contact with, ignore your friend.

how smug she sounds!!!

ignore ignore ignore.

you know your baby is just being, well...a baby!! completely normal. they are all different, even twins have different personalities.

By that description/diagnosis, if your DC has it, so does mine.

Next time she suggests something like that, I propose 'meh' as an appropriate response.

Perhaps you could slip in to the conversation what obvious joy your child gets out of life.
Or that you would frankly worry about a quiet child.

She Is clearly a competitive idiot.
At 5 months old, quiet doesn't equal good. What bollocks.

Ignore but she wasn't saying or even implying that your baby has ADHD imo.

Phew! :) sounds like I have a normal one then - albeit a chatter box in the making!

valium - I would have totally agreed with you had she not blushed, coughed a little and then changed the subject quick smart! And then backed up and said how gorgeous my baby is (this bit is very true )

ATruth - I love Meh! The perfect response! I shall indeed 'meh' next time

She said she has ADHD, not your baby. Who sounds perfectly average.

ds has ADHD. He was a nightmare baby. The placid one has cerebral palsy. The vomiting one is the only nt one tbh.

All babies are different and she was just trying to make conversation.

Meh, indeed.

I don't see where she was horrid at all

I think the first comment is annoying but the second comment is fine. She is saying she has a poor attention span like a baby would have. So putting herself down not a baby.

Comments about people's babies being 'good' drive me mad. Mine isn't even born and I already see a future where I say 'Good? Gosh no, mine's somewhere between Saddam Hussein and Beelzebub'.

My perfect baby turned into a devil toddler who turned into an adhd child! So she better watch out with her perfect baby!

My son only made a sound if he was hungry, and he has austism.

I think if I saw both those children together, hers is the one I'd worry about.

I'm surprised that she hasn't suggested it is a boy/girl thing. Not that I think it is, but people who make comments like that often also try to suggest boy/girl as a reason for individual differences.

I find it very odd that we use "good" about babies at all, and even odder that we use it to mean quiet.

You know, a good adult is someone who spends time with elderly and lonely relatives. Or who gives generously of their time and.or money to charitable causes. Or who stands up bravely to oppressors, or who cares selflessly for their children even when said children are ungrateful, or who stands faithfully by their partner in difficult times. Or lots of other things, none of which are lying in a baby chair gurgling for long periods of time. That's not "good", that's "convenient for the parents".

I'd ignore her. Your baby sounds perfectly normal.

Your baby sounds gorgeous.

Can I have a cuddle?

Massive generalisation coming up, but in my experience, the babies who need the most stimulation are the ones that grow up to be the brightest and more intelligent children.