aibu to have a good cry, because yet again I had to drag my screaming toddler out of play group?

[sleepsforwimps2010]

its probably because im tired that im bothered today, but ever week its the same!
im 20 weeks pregnant and under strick docs instructions not to lift, but ds is 22months old and loves going to a play session at our local childrens centre.
problem being, cant get him to leave! he screams and goes 'limp' when its time to head home.
ive tried talking, bribing everything I can think of.
today I just had to half drag half dangle him by his arms to get him through the door. ( which im sure counts as lifting).
I dont want to stop taking him, I was hoping by sticking with it he'd get better but today I could really have a good cry.....
aibu to keep him in his room now till hes in his teens?

Had a similar thing when my youngest was a that age.

His dad couldn't lift anything including him, and he very quickly realised this. I.e. if his dad wanted to take him somewhere and he didn't want to go, he would lay on the floor knowing there was sod all his dad could do about it.

A couple of times my dh called out 'Murdoch come and pick your son up', so I'd walk into the room and pick him up. After a couple of times he realised it wasn't worth it (ds) and would get up as soon as dad called out. One day I wasn't around, and dh called out 'Murdoch come and pick your son up' and ds rather than wait for the wrath of me, got up on his own accord and I wasn't even there.

Got us through a couple of months before he cottoned on. Then the stage had passed anyway.

Could you do similar with your dp at home? And then have him conditioned for next week's toddler session?

I like the idea of conditioning him, but this behaviour he saves for play group! his dads on hol soon though so ill take his as re enforcements!

Ah poor you!

Yes, tell the organisers you aren't allowed to lift on Drs orders, so could they help you by explaining to DS that he has to go now. And that Mummy has some chocolate for him in the car

I always used to have to wait to the very end to get dd1 to go. She still complained and had to be dragged out quite often but it did help her realise that everyone was going home and eventually she would have to go too. Sometimes the helpers would encourage her and help me get her into her buggy, they can be far more amenable to somebody else than to their parents. I'm sure one of the leaders would be happy to help you, especially if you explain you aren't supposed to be lifting him.

Reins and a buggy!

Strap him into a buggy?

DS1 was a bad leaver, at about the same age as yours when I was also v pg and banned from loads of stuff due to previous PROM. I did 5 minute warning then 2 min warning. Then made a big deal out of him going round and saying bye bye to everyone. Then gave him a job e.g. hold nappy bag / pram for me, hold door for me. Then he had an apple when he was in the pram. I don't know if this worked but he grew out of it really quickly once he realised the same thing was going to happen every time.

Could you have some 'secret mummy chocolate' in your bag to tempt him put with?

ive cried too, many many many many times.

you are sooooooo not alone :)

I too was going to suggest bribery

needs must and all that

I havent taken the buggy before as he only has to walk about 50metres to the car!
and I thought that getting him in the buggy for 2 mins to then get him out to put him in car seat was alot of messing around.
but after today display I will def have it in car (then if we get a repeat performance next week I can have it as a back up plan)

Good thinking!

I'm sure if you tell the organisers or another mum, that you can't lift, someone will help you.

Good luck!