To have remarked on this?

[ShagOBite]

Dinner in pub with DH and DDs (2.8 and 0.8)

A group of people sat near us, and were cooing at the baby, which was lovely. Then they start (quite loudly) discussing the differences between our children, and decide that the baby is much cuter and more fun etc. Older DD can hear this, understands and looks a bit sad. I'm sure they were clueless and assumed she was too young to understand, or maybe too wrapped up eating her food or whatever, but she was clearly upset.

So, I fairly loudly said "you're very cute too, aren't you xxx? And you're very fun", she replied "yes I am my good playing fun games". The group (one lady in particular) looked really embarrassed and we didn't speak any more.

Should I have just left it? Was it the right thing to do?

Some people are weird about toddlers, aren't they?

I remember with DD1 how much attention she used to get out and about and how it suddenly STOPPED the minute she looked like a toddler and not a baby.

There was a woman who worked in our local supermarket who literally used to fall upon DD in the trolley and go on and on about how she was her favourite baby. Somewhere between 12 and 18 months it was like she just stopped existing. She would look right through her.

shag you did the right thing.

willow

And what is with the shallowness of some people. I have met some drop dead gorgeous looking people who I wouldn't piss on if they were on fire. [fire]

[fire] ??????????

Oh how thoughtless. Some people do seem to prefer babies; I'd rather children myself, far more interesting. She should have thought before speaking though and definitely made an effort to engage with your daughter also, that's just manners.

It's a shame you can't get babies to projectile vomit on demand, isn't it?

not quite the same but my mum delights in telling me that when me and db were babies (13 months' age difference) people looked at us together, cooed over beautiful db and said to mum, about me, 'oh well,never mind'...... I wouldn't have known, but it is her favourite story of us as babies,still told 40 + years later -

Why would you even think you did the wrong thing? How dare those 'adults' be so nasty about your DD! Some people.... (Not you, OP!)