Social workers, CP ‘experts’ / knowledgeable, please give opinion.

[Jamillalliamilli]

AIBU to not know if this is true/untrue and could be adding damage?

Is it possible/ likely / standard / highly unlikely etc, that the parent of a child recently placed on the CP register (his behaviour/her parenting, chicken and egg issue) would have been told that she must tell her child that he?s on it?

I?m between a rock and a hard place trying to the right thing or not, by a child I?m fond of who?s options are rapidly running out (days) and whose unknowingly heading for disaster.

I would be better able to make decisions about my role in things if I had a clue about the above.
(I apologise if IABU to ask here but I?m out of options, under a lot of emotional pressure and in pieces over what to do/not do.)

No, if the child is young then they may not be told.

12?

Depends on age of child. Older children usually have a questionnaire to fill out about how they feel about being on a plan, the youngest one I have seen was filled in by an 8 years old but also depends on the maturity of the child.

How old is the child?

Working together to safeguard children guidelines state:

5.126 The child protection plan should be explained to and agreed with the child in a manner which is in accordance with their age and understanding. An interpreter should be used if the child?s level of English means that s/he is not able to participate fully in these discussions unless they are conducted in her/his own language. The child should be given a copy of the plan written at a level appropriate to his or her age and understanding, and in his or her preferred language.

Rhinosaurus he's 12. Thanks for the guideline quote.

So either SS are ignoring guidelines (possible) or it's unlikely that mum was simply told she must tell him. (equally possible)

12 would definitely be involved, some 12 year olds even attend the core groups and conferences, sometimes alone, sometimes with an advocate.

I am a children's social worker. When a social worker first meets a child they explain why they are there and what their role is and the concerns. As part of the child protection plan a social worker needs to speak to the children alone a min of once every 4 weeks so during those chats that may be discussed. However, you wouldn't really go into the process side of the situation, although of course its important to be honest if they ask.

I am not sure what your connection is but I would focus on support for the family.

I'd say it's unlikely that the parents would be expected to explain it to the child! The SW should explain according to the child's level of understanding.

He definitely hasn?t been told by SS at this point. (Possibly because he?s very volatile and they want to build relationship?) Has been on register approx 4 weeks, allocated worker?s been once, he told her to F... off.

Slipper I've been doing that as best I can, am now torn apart by what I'm witnessing and the ?support? mum?s asking of me. (NSPCC told me she's wanting me to rescue her, not support her.)