to think DH should spend this evening with me.

[genevacalling]

I am actually a bit miffed about this, but might just be being precious (probably that).

DH and I do a lot, but seperately as we have no family around to look after the DCs and not much spare cash for babysitting. It is rare for us to have 'couples time'. I'm a SAHM, DH works. We both have fairly time-consuming hobbies.

But! The DCs have been away since Wednesday. Massive treat for all concerned (maybe not the GPs ), and took a lot of planning. We're getting them tomorrow. I've spent the past couple of days reconnecting with friends (it's been too long), and DH and I had a lovely day together yesterday.

Chatting earlier and I said did he fancy going out for a curry, to the cinema, maybe out for a drink at one of the local trendy wine bars and he said he'd arranged to go out after work with a friend. No special occasion and he could see this person anytime, it's no big deal when I'm home with the DCs.

AIBU to think he should want to be with me?

I'm miffed because I want him to want to spend the time with me off his own bat.

Maybe that's controlling or U, okay fair enough. But I think time together just the two of us is so precious and rare. Maybe he just doesn't 'miss' me in the same way, no biggy.

Don't spoil it by being miffed! Have a glass or two of prosecco and get dolled up then go and meet your Dh in a positive mood or he'll wish he'd stayed out with his friend! Enjoy your night.

Well wanting to spend time with his friends doesn't mean he doesn't want to spend time with you too. And you have got time with him tonight, and he doesn't have to give up his existing plans for that. So it looks like it's the best possible outcome. It would be a bit silly to spoil tonight by being in a mood.

I'm in a mood NOW to get it out of my system for when H is actually around!

Just found a bottle of prosecco - frozen solid - in the freezer. Am concentrating on that new disaster

Did you nag him into cutting his plans short and meeting you for a curry and if so is he normally such a doormat? Because see to be fair, if I was out with my mates and my OH phoned me whingeing about wanting us to be together after I'd spent the past few days with him, I'd be FUCKING RAGING.

can't think why he wouldn't want to spend time with you!

You're the one on the internet moaning like a spoilt brat about your hubby having a life outside of you. Grow up.

You seem very difficult to please, OP. What's not to like about a nice late curry out at a time you'd normally be at home with children in bed?

But by all means, meet your DH while still being Chairperson of the Cat's Arsehole Club. I doubt it'll improve the evening but then you seem determined to not to enjoy it.

Sadly, he can't think that this is half term, the kids are away and "we" can actually have a night out.

Unless you go out regularly for a curry/cinema etc.

No, rather be with me mate, innit?

Sad for you.

WTF is this about "nagging"?!

Who's a nag when they do everything around the house? Kids. Cooking. Washing. etc. blah. (never mind working too!).

You deserve a night out!!

'maybe he just doesn't miss me the same way.

Hmm you don't give him a chance to miss you. I bet if you did what Chandon said then he would.

Yanbu, it would has been nice if he wanted to spend the last night of freedom from the kids going out together with you, especially as he's going away with work. Enjoy your curry and maybe you both could go out for a drink to a wine bar afterwards

Why so uptight Sayuri?

what I really really want to know is ....... did the prosecco defrost? was it drinkable and was it still fizzy hope you had a good night geneva

FINALLY someone focuses on the important part of the whole thing :)

It did! It is maybe a bit flatter than you'd expect but was perfectly fine - we drank it after the curry, was very nice. Dh and I had bacon sandwiches and chocolate fingers for breakfast

Glad you had a great night genevacalling :)

"I've spent the past couple of days reconnecting with friends "7but it's not ok for him to organise to do the same?

*ugh, awful typing

"I've spent the past couple of days reconnecting with friends "
but it's not ok for him to organise to do the same?

mayor, reconnecting isn't really an issue for him. He sees his friends very regularly. As a SAHM it is often tricky for me to get into town for a quick lunch with my friends who work in the city - as I have done the past few days. He sees this friend at least every fortnight, they go out together regularly. I go out with my friends regularly too though it takes a bit more planning.

What we don't do regularly is go out together. I was disappointed DH hadn't prioritised that - but whatevs, it was last night, ancient history.

so the answer is "yes" with regards to it's ok for you but not for him

um... really? you read what I've written here and got that?

I 'reconnected' with my friends during DH's work hours. If you'd like to have an argument about something then pick something more interesting like whether I should've had a naan as well as rice at the curry place.

you didn't have have a naan AND rice!!?!

Night out done, everyone happy, kids back today

End of story

Will a happy ending.

with, with, with!

Not will

I totally get where you are coming from and would have been upset too. It's the lack of thought and feeling like he doesn't mind you two not spending time together :( No kids, no time limits 'what can we do together' is a natural thought, not 'Oh I'll go out with Fred who I see all the time'. He was being a GIT and YWNBU to be annoyed. Glad it worked out OK though and hopefully the GP's will suggest it again next hols