...to tell this kid to shut the hell up...

[VonHerrBurton]

well, not really in those words, obvs, but I can't staaaannnddd it anymore. Ds (9yo) has a couple of friends here at the moment. They've been out on scooters for an hour but now it's raining quite heavily so now they're all in playing on the Xbox.

I can hear them and one of the friends is just so fucking annoying it's beyond belief. Comments so far: 'that controller cover is crap. omg it's sooo lame' (ds just bought said item and was thrilled with it) 'why have you got odd socks on, you look stupid' 'you can't have seen all the cars you only just got the game, you're such a liar'... on and on and on.

Get the picture? It was the same earlier on the trampoline so don't diss me as a bad parent for letting them on the Xbox please! Do I stay out of their way? Ds and other friend don't really seem that bothered and are just carrying on.

go in there and ask them to play nicely?

I wouldn't bother but have a word with ds later to tell him how mean his friend was.

Or go in and say things like
We don't say mean things in this house. Please keep your opinions to yourself.

I would tell him if he doesn't have anything nice to say then to keep quiet.

if the other kids arent bothered by him just keep quiet and out of the way.

have a quiet word with ds later and see he always like this or just bit wound up cos holidays

dont ever have him sleep over!

Sorry matey I should have said that earlier I did go into the garden and say 'listen, if you can't all play without arguing I will have to call your Mums, I don't want to hear squabbling all day' he was fine for a bit but it's started up again. Thing is he knows I can't follow through with the threat as Mum's at work 'til 3.30 and I'm stuck with him.

Dont u hate know it alls. Id try make him look silly much more satisfying! We're havin a play date 2. Dds friend 5yrs keeps callin ds a 'little bugger'. Not in a nasty way but its not a word mine use. Luckily dd is oblivious but ds looks at me n grins each time.

Yes, but you can tell him if he doesn't play nicely with your ds he will have to play nicely with you - and right now you're cleaning out the fridge/folding washing/washing the dogs anal glands.

That'll shut the little fecker up.

so don't make a threat you can't follow through on. Make one you can

Play nicely or I won't have you over again and when your mum comes to collect you, I'll tell her why.

gawd, I hate kids

Say 'stop showing off' works every time

laurie love it. Don't actually have a dog with which to clean anal glands. However, next door do...

just you're right, I shouldn't have made parenting rule no1 schoolboy error with the threat thing, it just sort of came out.

'Stop showing off' is the single best thing to say EVER

Well done hanaka!

Thank you byerkerslike

Byeckerslike even :/ damn iPhone I can't read your name while typing so have to try to remember

ive had it too, "little alfred" was so sweet, according to his mum.....total terror..... i did say "if you like to be in charge would you like to help me do poo patrol? ie searching the lawn for dog crap......seemed to work :D

don't what ever you do have him over for a party or sleepover. This brings me back to my 10th bday sleepover where Ellie from down the road wouldn't let anyone else get a word in edgeways for the whole night as she was telling everyoen how this was the most boring party she had ever been to. Shudder.

I'd just tell him it's not a nice thing to say and we don't allow that sort of thing in our house, in my most stern voice. I've only had to do it once, and it worked. But I know the other Mum would back me up, and tell my child off if she needed too. There's nothing wrong with telling other children off when you are looking after them.

I would go in and say what another poster said and say we dont say mean things when we are here or playing , failing that sent the boy home , Other peoples children can be a wee bit annoying sometimes ,

and yes Its ok tot ell other kids off in your own house ,

Don't intervene in a namby pamby way, implying they are arguing when it's him being horrible. That's not fair on your DS. I'd go with being kind but direct.

I would leave them to it - they are 9, they need to sort things out by themselves.

Its SO annoying. My DD has her COUSIN over who I thought we knew well...DD is 7 and a young one at that...and her cousin is 8...her cousin just informed me that she is allowed "drinks and fags when she's 12."

DD is seriously impressed with her despite my telling the cousin that I will be warning her Mum she said that.

DD is being cheeky and imitating her cousins ways.

DH says its because DD doesn't socialise enough. What a lot of rubbish! Its because she is 7 and they imitate bahaviour....

My house my rules and just cos they're 9 and the other kids don't mind doesn't mean I'll leave them to it-you get treated like my kids in my house and if they're annoying me I'll tell them.
I will take them to one side and tell them they'll be sitting with me unless they stop with the offensive comments-just like I would with my own.

@NOTWELL - Puts my AIBU into perspective really! Jeez!

See I am tempted to say leave them to it because children need to learn to fight their own battles like valium mentioned above.

But I have a DS (7) who really can't argue for himself, especially against boys like the one in the OP who will just up the ante.

So I usually go with the stand of telling children if they don't like whats on offer at my house to play with then don't come over anymore! With an added mention that if they continue being rude about it they won't get invited anyway!