To feel cross with friends

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I have a group of friends I meet a few times a year; I would like to meet more often but it's hard to coordinate diaries. We met for a meal in Nov and decided on a girly trip to London. The only date we could all make was in late March and everyone put it in their diaries.
We met up again last week and I mentioned making travel arrangements and one friend said 'oh I can't make it my dh has arranged something'. Then another friend said she couldn't make it either, so the trip is off.
AIBU to feel cross that friends just drop arrangements when something better comes along? The thing is I have several groups of friends and this seems quite normal now; I can understand emergencies but this seems to be when they have a better offer. I am getting paranoid now that nobody likes me as this happens so often.

Its a shame, but also a fact of life, particularly if you are working full time, free time gets a lot of pressure, and often ends up double booked. Don't take it personally

It's normal. Things crop up and you can't just go out at the drop of a hat.

Don't be paranoid. It's just the way it is.

I understand what you are saying, but if I make an arrangement I put it in my diary and then refuse any other offers on that date. So I only cancel due to illness or emergency. Am I old fashioned to think you shouldn't cancel just because something you fancy better comes along especially when the second offer could be carried out another time.

Winkywinloka, it's hardly at the drop of a hat, they made an arrangement in November for march!!

Op, I agree, I think it's hurtful, rude, and a bit childish. Sorry you are feeling let down. Have a

That is why I don't have 'groups' of friends. All of my friends are one to one people, non of them know each other. When we set a date it happens as there are only two diaries to coordinate.
Could you see these people without having to see them all OP?

BTW, YANBU. It's rude.

I can see how hurt you must feel. Perhaps it's time for you to re-assess your friendships?

Well depending on the size of the group, why does the whole trip have to be off if two can´t make it?