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to expect my parents to choose me over their dogs?

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CrazyCatLady13 · 17/02/2012 09:49

I've also posted this in relationships but will hopefully get some advice - the 'traffic' here is much higher! Grin

I know how small this problem is compared to some that I've seen on here - but this is driving me crazy!

I love my parents - they haven't always been approachable, and I wouldn't go to them with a problem unless I really had to (I pretty much raised myself from the age of 5) but they have two dogs and won't leave them along for even 10 minutes!

I was seriously ill in hospital and mum said she couldn't come and see me unless she could arrange a dogsitter!

Despite living half an hour away, they haven't visited me in a year because they can't bring the dogs (I have cats!) Then when I don't visit for a few weeks my mum says 'we haven't seen you for a while!'

It's really causing me stress, and I don't know what do to. I've tried talking to them about it, but they just say that the dogs get too distressed to be left alone.

Please, does anyone have any suggestions??! Or am I being unreasonable?

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CrazyCatLady13 · 20/02/2012 11:33

Thank you for all your replies.

I do think I need to minimise contact - I always feel so low and drained after visiting them, my mum just seems to suck energy from people (hope you know what i mean by that and that I'm not sounding mad!)

I'm lucky that my DH is supportive and protective of me & my feelings.

I think I'll try the 'sorry, I haven't got anyone to look after the cats' idea when they invite me over next! Grin

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Calabria · 20/02/2012 12:00

My ex in-laws always used the pets as a reason not to visit us. It upset my other half a lot :(

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