To not want to invite IL's on our holiday?

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We've booked a short break in Centre Parcs next month. when I'll be heavily pregnant. The idea is so that dh can take dd swimming, biking etc, while I join in with what I can and want to do.

We've booked a 3 bed place (for the same price as a 2 bed in case friends wanted to join us for a night). Now my dh has asked me if it's ok to ask his parents to join us for some of our break. Now we have been abroad with my parents in the past, but our situation is different with both sets. His parents live within a mile of us, and we see them nearly every week, mine live 200 miles away and we see them every 6 weeks-ish.

AIBU to not want his parents to join us? They are perfectly lovely, but it's not really what I had in mind for our holiday.

How is not taking your in laws on holiday with you alienating them?

Well, you´ve holidayed with your parents & he wants to holiday with his.

Do you think he´s asking because he really wants to or because he feels he has to ask to be fair?

Personally I´d have to leave a man who wanted to invite his parents on holiday.

Ok there is nothing wrong with wanting time just with DH and DD alone on holiday, I get that. But your explanation about who lives where doesnt really explain why you think its ok to go on holiday with your own parents and not DHs parents plus maybe have friends to.

duckdodgers, I think the explanation of who lives where, is relevant because OP sees her own parents far less than she sees her IL's, therefore going on holiday with her own parents is maybe to even things out a bit in terms of time spent with each family.

If your dh is putting pressure on you op, perhaps he should be reminded that he gets to see his family every week and you don't, so in the interests of being fair, perhaps you need to see his less and yours more. Bet he has a rethink

YANBU Friends are different from relatives.
You're heavily pregnant & you should be the 1 who chooses how this wonderfully special time is spent. You shouldn't be having any unnecessary worries put your way either. Stay calm & have the holiday you need as R&R before the birth.
Good luck - let us know what you have! Best wishes.