AIBU to have three children in one bedroom?

[alessthandomesticgoddess]

[DF is fiance, not father ]

The arrangement now is: DD1 (3 and a half) sleeps in the bottom bunk of bunk beds. The top bunk is not in use and has the ladder removed for now but when DD2 is older they will both be in the bunks. DD2 (14 months) is in a cot bed. DSS (3) stays one night a week and stays either in DD1's bottom bunk or on a trundle bed in the same room. They all like it this way.

We are renting and have a long term (5 years at a time) contract with our landlord. We don't want to move but want another DC. We have a large box room that's big enough to fit a single bed/bunk beds and a chest of drawers. Not spacious but spacious enough. I said to DF that our future baby would sleep with us for the first few months like all our children and then would move into a cot bed in the box room, later upgrading to a bunk bed which DSS could then have if he wanted not to be with his sisters.

DF is adamant we can't have another baby in there as although now it's used as a storage room it will be DSS' room when he wants it. I say having a bedroom would be nice for him but he stays one day a week and that plan is indefinite for at least a decade when DSS can legally decide himself who he wants to live with.

DF says we should move to a four bedroom house (which we can't afford realistically - I love this house, location, price, the layout, everything) if we wanted another DC. He thinks IABU for thinking this is a good idea.

Is three in a room one night a week too much? Would it be silly to put a cot in a smaller room and just upgrade to bunk beds for all the children as needed?

Sorry this is long.

Maybe you could use the box room as a play room and the play room as a bedroom for the girls, as by the time you need it, they will be old enough to sleep on a separate floor to you. Or, get rid of the playroom altogether, give it to dss and keep the box room for your new baby.

We live in a converted bungalow with 3 bedrooms upstairs and one downstairs. Our ds1 is fine in the downstairs room.

I've got 3 boys (aged 5, 3 and 13 months) in one big bedroom. We have another (small) bedroom that one of them could go in but it doesn't seem fair to have one in their own room and 2 sharing and they like being in together.

domesticgoddess DH and I had a very small wedding and went to a restaurant after for our "doo" and expected that any family that wished to attend pay for themselves instead of gifts - everyone was fine about it.

YANBU! My DH has similar panics of we need to move to a bigger flat (we are FINE only 2DCs and a 2 bedroom flat) and then gets all depressed when he arranges another valuation that still says we are 20 grand in negative equity . I think it's just a reflection of him being stressed, you know thinking one extra room will solves all our problems when the reality is perhaps a bit different. I think your plan sounds great. Congrats on your engagement!

My three eldest girls shared one room until they went to university, and still do when they come home. My three eldest boys (17, 16, 14) share one room too.

The boys room is quite small, but both rooms are far nicer than the shared rooms I've seen at hugely expensive boarding schools and they're all very adaptable when they go away and are exceptionally good at sharing.

I mind much more than they do.

Ive had four girls in a room one night a week and we had no problems. I have three girls and they share seven nights a week! Ds has the tiny box room which he loves.

My eldest DD is at a boarding school where four of them share a room, they are in Year 10. We visited one where there were SIX girls per room.

On that basis, three doesn't sound very many, especially when one is part time.

Why have another child when you don't have the room? Id say the eldest child gets their own room,simple as,

I would wait and see what gender DC3 (4) is.

If a boy - DS and DSS share box room
if a girl - all girls share and DSS gets the box room

Or consider the playroom being used as a playroom and DSS bedroom one day a week, with one of the other DC in box room (again will depend on what DC3 is!)

If you keep rooms neutral with colourful accessories they can be moved around at will.

We have a 13yr old girl,6 yr old boy and a 3 yr old girl.Our 3 bed house has 2 double rooms and a smallish box room.How would anyone figure out who shares with who? I say put the two girls together even tho' there is a big age gap and have the lad in his own room.We could always kind of 'curtain off' the two girls room,so that the teenager has more privacy? Any other suggestions?