to be gutted because parents selling the family home

[takethattastic]

and moving some distance away even though I have my own home, married, 38 and 2 kids??!!

On the other hand, I never liked my family home very much and wish my 70 something parents would move into something more manageable!

Thanks all, feel better now and you are all right. They need a smaller more manageable house and yes it is them that made the house a home :) Signing off now so thanks again

all those memories in one house - YANBU

yanbu to be sad. My parents split up and the only way dad could keep the house was if he sold the land to developers to buy mum out. No happy memories of the damp, smelly house, but the horse chestnut I planted as a Conker aged 3 and burried all my childhood pets beneath, talked to when sad etc had to be destroyed for the new plans. Worst of all, they knocked it down, I didn't even manage to get a conkers from it to grow anew and they never built the sodding house. My tree was 27 and twice as tall as the house.

But the money gave both parents their own home and freedom so it is worth the loss. They are happier now.

Foureyes that's good you left then ,

more room for us who WANT to live in Lincolnshire

When the time comes (hopefully not until many years into the future), it's a LOT easier to clear their house after they die, if it's not the family home you grew up in, with all it's "treasures" from your childhood still in the loft, and every room filled with memories.

When we sold the family home after my dm died, I dug up some of her perennial plants and planted them in my own garden. They are still thriving 15 years later. I know that they aren't the same ones that grew in her garden but I still think of them as if they were and I enjoy the thought. I even refer to them as my dm's plants.

Can you buy it and move in?

Sorry, YABU.

I havent even been back to the town I grew up in for around 20 years. I cant get the attachment to old places and things.

YANBU! Cried for days when mum and dad sold the home I'd grown up in. If i ever visit that town I still see the house and think its theirs even though I know it's not :(

Gnome, my mum has the children of grandpa's fushia (sp) all round the house.

It's natural to feel attached to the houses we knew as children.
My Grandparents has been demolished. I've only seen the new big house on Google earth, but it looks all wrong.

YANBU to be upset I guess. Though my parents are thinking of selling theirs too and my first thought was that I was excited for them. It's not the "family home" anymore, it's THEIR home.

startail - I was just saying that I dont get it. I moved a few times as a child and many more times as an adult. Some people are attached to places and things others arent 'tis all.

I felt the same when I was looking on the local property website and my parents had put their home on the market and not told anyone!

Grovee that's exactly what happened! Browsing through doing my nosey and found my childhood home! Even though I live nearby it will still feel weird. I think part of it is that my parents are 10 mins away in the house I grew up in so the thing is that now they are moving away and I love being close to them. Is that sad at my age?

YANBU Of course you would be sad that your parents are moving away and selling your childhood home, I can understand that.

Not sad at all. Just flipping annoying that they couldn't take 2 minutes to tell any of us they were selling

YANBU to be sad. I would feel the same.

I dread the day Dad sells our family home. No matter how hold I am, I'll still feel sad about it.

Coming from the point of view of older parents we moved from our family home 6 years ago and ds2 - who was then 29 - was so upset that he still won't drive past it. He had left home when he was 19 but was very attached to it. Dh and I had taken early semi-retirement and needed to downsize. I was sorry to leave the house and its memories but knew realistically that we needed something smaller.

We moved so much (within same town) that ,though I have fond memories, I never really got attached to one house.
My Mum giving away my childhood books-now that made me cry! We don't do clutter in our family and any memories have to me talked about to be remembered cos there's not many photos left either. My Dad died young and it's a shame we have so little stuff, but we do talk about him most days

My Nana's house where I spent most summer holidays/Christmas as a child is now a lovely holiday home named after her by present owners and I am tempted to book it-totally different inside now, but still Grandad's hedge and so on.

YANBU to be gutted.

YWBU to have a tantrum about it.

My folks moved to the other end of the country when I got pregnant with their first GC. I'm not grabby, didn't 'expect' free childcare etc etc but was a bit gutted by the fact that they'd want to. Can't help that, unreasonable or not. I never told them more than I would miss them and I'm happy for them.

I do wish they were different, but I'd never change them, so I love them as they are.

The only think that does get my heckles up is when they say 'we really wish we could help you out more' ... rot... they still own their old house at the top of the lane from me, they rent it on the holiday market, they could be here whenever they wanted. So, OP without turning into a Monty Python sketch where one poster is considerable worse off than the next, YANBU at all.

YANBU. I cried when my grandparents sold their seaside home and moved because of my nan's ill health. So many happy holiday memories- but I still have those :) And they now live in Shetland, which is an even more fabulous place to visit.

My parents moved a few times so my dad's current house isn't the one I grew up in. I've never had any real attachment to a house, I liked the first house I bought best of all.