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AIBU to feel damned if I do, damned if I don't?

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WashingMachineAlwaysOn · 15/02/2012 16:26

I'm due to go back to work part time next week, but I'm feeling very judged by some family members who think a Mum should be at home with their children. Mainly my sister who doesn't have kids yet herself.

It has made me upset as I'm not 100 per cent sure myself about going back. My reasons are mainly economic (mortgage etc) and planning for the future so that my CV is better for finding work in years to come. But I am worried about spending less time with my little ones. The children are 1.5 and 3.5 and I know they will love being with their grandparents.

The other problem is that I feel like a failure already as I'm a disorganised, grumpy SAHM who doesn't enjoy the housewife side of things at all. My boyfriend is supportive of me going back but will I still have to do all the washing up as well as my new reports for work? Hmm.

So I feel damned if I do return to work (abandoning kids, more workload) and damned if I don't (continue being a not very good SAHM, with low self esteem).

Any advice from other wise MNetters on either side? Many thanks!

OP posts:
WashingMachineAlwaysOn · 19/02/2012 12:21

Thanks Popcorn, yes I have wondered about a cleaner, think I might look into that. Also going to investigate plumbing for a dishwasher too.

OP posts:
missingmumxox · 19/02/2012 12:58

Freezer and slow cooker are a god send.

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