That my DD is with other people for the whole day so that I can sleep???

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I'm feeling really bad about it now.

I only work part time but my shift today starts at 1pm and ends at 4am, with the same shift tomorrow. (only 2 days a week)

I usually look after DD as normal from when she wakes up about 7.30am and drop her at her grandparents on my way to work, with my DH collecting her on his way home about 7pm. Its tiring but only 2 days...

But I am exhausted, and pregnant, so I arranged for my DH to drop DD off at his parents this morning on his way to work so I could sleeo in before my shift.

I should have just done it, I feel really bad that shes with her grandparents now for the best part of 12 hours... not many toys there, they've never had her that long. Was I unreasonable to do this?

YABU to feel bad. Makes perfectly good sense to let someone else look after your child if you need to catch up on some sleep and recharge the batteries. Very nice of the GPs to offer. Guilt is for the birds.

of course you should sleep.
with that shift pattern and pregnant you need to.

dd is with GPs.

would not be wrong if you left her with paid childcare either.

YABU - to feel guilty. You're strengthening her bonds with her extended family, and making sure you're rested up to be the best Mum possible.

Unless the grandparents have been forced at gun point to spend time with their grandchild?

YANBU to drop her off early to get some sleep, you need to look after yourself in pregnancy and the new baby is just as important as DD, if your body is telling you to sleep and you have the chance then take it. For the next time though could you gather up a few toys from your house to have a bag of toys at grandparents', or have a look in charity shops for some cheap ones if you can't spare any?

Don't feel guilty! You do need to rest sometimes, particularly when pregnant. You'll be better able to look after her after a good rest too. And she's enjoying time with her GPs- a win all round I think. Don't worry about toys either- my favourite toys at my gran's house were a set of old fashioned scales and a clothes horse- they don't really need any!

Sleep well btw!

No you are not unreasonable, give yourself a break.

It's my birthday next week, and DH, who lacks imagination, asked what I wanted as a present. I said "a day off". i.e. a day without DD. I do not feel guilty. So YANBU.

(I love DD to bits. But I do really really want a day off)

Are the shifts the same every week ? You are only getting 7hrs break between the end of a shift and the start of the next one. I thought it had to be 11 hours between them ?

Please don't feel guilty - get some sleep!!

RVF I realised at the end of the day that that would have been my perfect present so its top of my list for next year! OP, YANBU

I'm having a day off on Friday. No guilt at all. I do all the night wakings, all the illness, work full time and DH gets time off periodically and I never do. I will be lying on the sofa.

I'm not even pregnant just under the weather and my DD has basically watched 3 days of back to back cbeebies as I have so little energy, she doesn't seem any the worse for it and neither will your DD.

It's really important for DC to spend time with other family members and close friends who love them. Parents need time off parenthood and DC need a circle of loving relationships as much as possible. Don't feel guilty, enjoy your sleep.

Absolutely not unreasonable. You are compressing 30hrs work into two shifts. If you worked in the day your DD would have to be looked after, no difference for working in the night, you need your sleep.

I just got told by someone at work, on this very subject, that she could never put her children in daycare when she was off. Because she knows I have Friday off. And DD is in childcare. Why are we sometimes so judgemental of other mothers. I feel shit now.

MrsTerry, do not feel guilty! OP, SLEEP!!

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