To think my DB is being an idiot.

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My DD collects Moshi Monsters and has quite a lot of them, and lots of extras especially of the first series.

DN came over today with SIL and he was playing with them. Saying how much he liked them, so I asked SIL (not in front of DN) if he would like some of DD's swaps. She said okay.

DB just sent me a text saying 'why did you give X those things - we dont want your cast offs'. I text SIL and she said he is sulking and in a mood with her for accepting them. Now I know DB is struggling financially at the moment as he is on half time at work and SIL isnt working, but AIBU to think he is being a bit rude. I didnt give them out of pity - I have given DN other things before - clothes, toys, DVD's etc. If he didnt want them he could just politely refuse.

Yes he is being an idiot. It sounds like the stress of his financial worries is getting to him and he is afraid that people think less of him for not being able to financially provide for his family.
I would leave it for a bit then ring him and say you're sorry he took offence but you weren't giving DN stuff out of pity and you felt he overreacted.

He's being an idiot.

But if this is out of character for him, do you think the financial circumstances and situation at work are making him depressed?

It seems a bit of an extreme reaction for a grown man to sulk and send nasty messages over a few plastic toys, so perhaps it's a deeper issue.

Ring him and ask him what the issue is. I would - but then I am pretty unceremonious with my family.

I am everyone's nightmare SIL though

Ring him and say there was no charity involved - they were swaps. Seems like he's having a bit of a pride issue, and if they're struggling then that's not surprising. Don't let it be too big a deal.

He is, but if this is out of character there will be something behind it.

Talk to him, though, do not continue this further by text.

Either ask him if something is bugging him, it was just a few Moshi's, or just say 'what on earth are you on about?'

Its not out of character - he can be a right sulky sod sometimes. I will leave the chip on his shoulder to cool for a couple of days.

I suppose I am used to being given things by friends and giving things to others, and maybe he isnt but its pretty normal right?