AIBU stop telling me to cheer up, Im fucking fine!!!!

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This woman at work keeps passing me everyday and without fail says, cheer up love it might never happen.

I told her today to shut up Im working would she prefer me to sit there with an insane smile on my face!

Also I thought in the back on my head that I fucking hate the phase 'it might never happen' I would never say this to someone. What if the worst had just happened. And to be honest I have had a very bad year and she knows this, but I am usually a happy person but when Im working I usually have a serious face on, dont we all?

This is down to your rest face, I remember a programme tgat had taken pictures of people's rest faces ie when they are busy doing something else/not aware someone is looking and done very very funny and very grumpy.

Btw someone asked said to me cheer up you look like someone's died, and yes that's right, someone had

I used to get told to cheer up back when I was dating an ex. I used to get quite miffed at it, and would say I was fine.

It wasn't until I dumped him that I realised I was actually living under a nasty dark cloud. I was cheerful and smiling and chatty again and all the people who previously avoided me were stunned but quick to appreciate it, just as I appreciated the second chance.

I have what I refer to as 'chronic bitch face'. Inside I'm all sunshine and unicorn farts, on the outside I look bloody miserable. I just scowl at people who tell me to cheer up.

LovesBeing - you might be my cousin. She was walking through the train station on her way to my grandfathers funeral, dressed in black and looking very sad, when some random man said to her "cheer up love, anyone would think you were going to a funeral."

"They'd think right" she said, and carried on.

My stock answer to stupid comments like that is "I'm smiling on the inside", usually shuts people up or makes them laugh!
Ironically considering I look permanently pissed off, my DH - although generally cheerful - looks permananently grumpy & I do find myself asking him if something's up! I should really just shut up & leave him alone...

It is rude and unfunny! Tell her, she is not funny. Don't look up at her or respond. Train yourself, passive aggression does not work with you!!!!!

I have one of those faces, too. The comments drove me mad for years, until last year when some random stranger in town told me to cheer up, it might never happen. My dad had just died unexpectedly, my mum was at risk of losing her house over it because it turned out that there was no protection on the mortgage, I'd been told the day before that I was being made redundant... And I let him have the lot.

I bet he doesn't say it any more.

Seriously, what is the desired outcome of saying that to a stranger in the street? Are they likely to say "you know, I was miserable, but a stranger being rude to me has cheered me up! Thanks!"

Now I just look at them funny, like they are a bit nuts. If they persist (and some do) I ask them if I know them, and if not, how do they know what is going on in my life. Helps me!

DH has one of those faces when he's watching tv. He goes from looking a little bit down to looking really, really upset - I have a bad habit of asking several times a night occassionally if he's ok. Thankfully he usually just laughs at me and says that the only thing that's wrong with him is his face!