to not be bossed around by DH

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I'm not sure when it started but me and DH only buy 'proper' cards for birthdays.

The rest of the time we play The Crappiest Card game. It's exactly what it says and you have to find the worst card possible, the more nauseating/odd/slightly disturbing the better. Whoever manages it wins. I'm pretty confident of being today's winner.

However, he had a moan at me yesterday as apparently I don't take anniversaries seriously enough because I couldn't name the specific date our drunken meeting was. Wedding anniversary should also require a sensible card. Although, I pointed out he bought me a vile one last year. But it had Happy Anniversary on it, so apparently that's ok.

Also, last year I definately won, him bitter got him a card for our anniversary with meercats on the front as he's always head up like a meercat being nosy. I even drew speech bubbles on it. It's not like I hadn't put any effort into it. But he reckoned it wasn't a 'proper' anniversary card.

Now he thinks we should get serious anniversary cards too, but I like the Crappiest Card game and I don't want to.

Who is BU? Me or DH?

Disclaimer - this is a lighthearted threat, not serious. Although I may tweak his nipples in a fit of petulence if I am found to be unreasonable.

leave the bastard

hehe (that was my first!)

i suggest tossing a coin about anniversaries, or maybe play "the lovey-doviest card" for anniversaries. the most over the top gushiest card possible?

Did you see the asda smart price valentines day card?

That sounds like excellent fun - but if you're not on the same page is he really trying to say 'pay me some attention, I don't think you love me enough' or some such stuff?

I got a Valentine from my cat today - I love dh for that - squealed like a big girl and covered the utterly bemused cat with kisses (got one from him too)

Over the top gushy is what I've gone for this year, with underlining for emphasis, for the best bits.

I'm a sad individual with too much time on my hands obviously!

I didn't see the smart price one until it was too late but I've mentally bookmarked that for next year.

Well that's my point, you have to put a big amount of effort to get something so spectacularly crap.

Plus he'll cheat, and get a Crap Card, I think he's playing mind games...

Haha we play the crap card game too. We get extra points if a poem is involved, teddy bears carrying a bunch of flowers or hugging each other. Bonus points for any embossing on the front....

Poem - tick (4 pages of lyrical genius)

teddy bears - no but a whole front cover of flowers

embossing - tick

I'm getting there but I still have lots to learn I see.

Buy the biggest crappest card you can find. When he complains, burst into tears, wail "I thought this one WAS a proper one? Do you not like it? You hate my taste. You hate meeeeeeeeeeeeeee" and run out, slamming the door behind you.

That'll teach him.

Neither of you are being unreasonable.

You just have a different - and equally valid - opinion on this.

He wants to go all romantic for some reason and you want to stick with the game - which is also romantic actually. It's personal, intimate, fun thing that the two of you share and it's got history. To me, it's actually more romantic than a hearts and flowers and naff poem © hallmark

Is he feeling all unloved? buy him some flowers and give him a big snog.

Hecate so what you're saying indirectly is that I am not unreasonable and he is?

Clytaemnestra something to consider...

I do think he thinks now that we've got a baby we should be boring grown up now.

Also, when pressed to name the date of our very first meeting, his reply was 'sometime in March'...even I know that.

I think he's gaslighting me.

we have points for bluebirds

Op, did you know you can at the start and end and strikeout a whole sentence--

see how worthwhile this thread was?

Now then Nagoo I tried to that once and it didn't work.

Or I didn't do it properly

I like Clytaemnestra's idea.

Or you could play your own game, unbeknownst to your DH- the Dullest Card In The World game. Offhand (and I apologise in advance to anyone who likes these cards poor mad fools ) I'm thinking reproductions of brown-hued Still Lifes or similar, and insert your own verse.

(In our family we buy kids birthday cards and scribble the extra digit on in a very unsubtle fashion. Bonuse points are awarded if you can add the digit on a badge.)

I like Clytaemnestra's idea too.Keeping your sense of humour about the whole thing is a good idea.

I love your Crappest Card idea. It does show thought, lots of it.

Now you have a child, can you do sensible card-buying for child-related birthdays and occasions?

I used to play "stupidest birthday card" with my family. One year for my dad's birthday I bought him a kiddie card with a cartoon whale on it saying 'To A Special Boy'. I drew a big biro moustache on the whale. Not sure if he was impressed!

Right, I shall practise my suitably distraught looking face.

Clanger he set the bar on that one. I gave him a normal card to Daddy at Christmas. He gave me an old lady/to my special mother card. The challenge is on.

It did give me the giggles though. Simple things for simple minds and all that.

Milady (great name btw!) peerie I love decorating a card with a bit of biro. I don't think it's complete until you've ruined personalised it.

I love that game!

I am the master at this game, it is the only reason I make my own cards. DP's this year was a beauty, he opened it very gingerly as he is used to being covered in glitter whenever he opens cards from me :o