to feel embarrassed about having a breast exam from someone I went to school with?

[bumbleymummy]

Please tell me I am being very unreasonable and totally ridiculous! She is a doctor and this is her job and she has probably done thousands of them. So why do I blush every time I think about having it?

YANBU it is a bit of a squirmy one and she's probably feeling the same way too although will be hiding behind her 'professionalism'.

It would be perfectly reasonable for you to ask for someone else although you may feel more embarrassed by doing that??

Take a deep breath and remember it will be quick!

Has it happened already?

When you go just ask if you can see someone else. I am a doctor who works in the breast clinic and if someone came in who I recognised I would always ask them if they would prefer to see another doctor. They have never been bothered but I certainly wouldn't mind or take offence if they did.

YANBU, I think it would be perfectly reasonable to get someone else to do it if that's possible.

If it's not possible, then you're right about the fact she will have done loads and be totally used to it.

However, I doubt she's used to examining the breasts of people she went to school with so the great leveler here is that if you're embarrassed, I'm sure she will be too

Ok that's good to know YD. I might ask but I don't want to scupper my chances of getting an appointment today because I've been worrying all weekend. It's just that the lump is quite deep so it's going to involve a lot of poking around!

It will be a million times worse if she's embarrassed too!

DH's thought is 'at least it's not a guy'. Eurgh- and my breasts are kind of wonky at the minute because DS2 has stopped feeding completely on one side and only feeds occasionally from the other but enough to mean it is bigger...I mean if someone you know is going to examine your breasts you at least want them to look their best!

Of course you should ask for someone else, it's basic professional boundaries for a medical professional not to examine/treat someone they know socially or professionally. I went for a smear and the nurse was someone I had worked with, she left straight away.

i had a gynaecological exam from someone who knew my mum the other day.

We had a chat about how retirement was treating her and then he looked up my vagina

It was fine.

But I think you should ask fro someone else, perfectly reasonable and understandable request.

sardine.

No really it was surprisingly fine.

When i had ds the midwife who delivered him was a friend from school who i hadn't seen for years.

Everytime i see her now i always cringe and think omg you had your fingers in my vagina

I went for a beauty treatment and the girl assigned to do it was an ex pupil! I found it very difficult to decide what would be worse, have her do it or ask for someone else. Went with the latter in the end but tried to make a joke of it.. VERY awkward.

Lol goat :) I think vagina trumps breast as far as potential embarrassment goes so I'm feeling a bit better about it now :)

Appointment is later this afternoon so keep fingers crossed for me please!

Fingers crossed for you bumbley

(Although in your last post I read 'vagina trumps' and thought you were veering slightly off post for a while!)

Lol ASB. That would be a bit of a derailment!

Hope it goes well - I'd ask for someone else if it makes you feel more comfortable. Obviously it's just a job for them, they've seen it all before, will be breezy and practical, etc. But when it comes down to it, it's how you feel.

(I certainly felt much better asking for someone else when I went in to get stitches removed from my nethers, and it was the wife of my ex )

Had a smear test with someone I knew through work recently. The trouble was, I only vaguely recognised her when I arrived. It was only when she said "so, are you still working at x?" that I realised that it wasn't through her nursing that I recognised her

By then, we were both committed ... she stuck to "brisk and professional" ... I pretended it wasn't really happening

Oh no, Dog, no! That would just have been awful!

chicken. These stories are making me laugh. It's nice to be distracted! :)