To leave ds to be or not?

[Magneto]

Ds has been a nightmare all day! I've had nothing but tantrums, doing things he knows are not allowed, constant whinging and throwing of food/toys/whatever he can get his hands on.

At 6 o'clock I gave up put cbeebies on, gave him scotch eggs, a mini muller rice and some brioche loaf for supper and planned on bath and then bed for 7.

And he has not cried since 6. He has watched cbeebies and actually played with his toys quietly and without it involving throwing them, for the first time all day.

AIBU to not want to break the spell by removing him to bath and bed now and just enjoy the peace while it lasts?

Once he goes to bed I have to do housework

(Ps he had been offered much healthier foods all day long but didn't want any of it.)

Is he your first born? If so my eldest firstborn Ds was exactly the same.

Yabu. Get him to bed and sod the housework.

whether or not you should leave him for a later bath and bed is down to you and how good he is at having a slight variation in bed time but there is a sense on your post that you feel slightly guilty for doing the TV / sofa dinner thing but please don't - its absolutely what we do on a possibly far too regular basis! enjoy your evening (and stuff the housework!)

After 3 ds, I am resound to the fact that sometimes you just have to give in. Unless he is filthy I wouldn't worry about bath unless he wants to. All dc do this now and again, I am sure he will back to his normal self tomorrow. That supper could be a lot worse, he is happy you are both are a lot more relaxed. Just put it down to experience as it will happen again, be warned, but at least next time you will be able to see the signs.
Do you have to be up for work tomorrow, if not I wouldn't worry about being in bed for 7 for tonight. Sending you hugs as I am sure you need it.

I'd get him in bath, story and bed. Sounds like he's testing boundaries and you need to be consistent for him. It's not about being strict but security of boundaries for him.

Dont bother with the bath

Sometimes they just want to do nothing!

I'd get him bathed and ready for bed early, he sounds like he's needing an early night.

(If he doesn't, sounds like you do.)

For God's sake, get yourself a timetabled routine. Never mind anything else.

Definitely - enjoy a guilt free evening.

Sorry was actually agreeing with leftmymistletoe

Well we did the bath as he did need it and he was uncharacteristically good tempered about it (while I'm on the subject please someone tell me how toddlers even get that much uneaten food down the front of their nappies in the first place!?!) , I read him a little story and he had his bottle and is now in bed.

Early night is well and truly planned for me as I'm up for work at 5am tomorrow. Just need to load the dishwasher, sort the bins out (bin day tomorrow), wash the bottles, make my lunch for tomorrow and put away the (3 baskets) of clean washing before they take up permanent residence on my sofa.

blissedout yes he is my first... MIL assures me second and subsequent babies are easier but I'm convinced that's just because you know what to expect .

RuleBritannia I wish I could have a timetabled routine! Don't know how I would manage it with early starts for work 4 days a week for me and dh having varied and unpredictable shifts though.

Well done glad he is settled. Lol at it being easier 2nd time around. Ds1 didn't have tantrums really, ds2 made up for that. Now I've a dd too.

You can't help but give your first born your undivided attention. But it does mean they are not terribly good at being "good". My second born entertained herself be observing first born's antics. My third born, who suffered from almost complete maternal neglect, could amuse himself for hours with a ball of wool or less

Well, considering mamam's comment, maybe it's the luck of the draw. Anyway glad that the little one is settled : )