To be so annoyed at dp

[Willow89]

Dp went off to town today said he would be back in an hour or two that was fine. 4 hours later no sign so I rang to see where he was as dinner was ready said he went to a friends house and was on his way home. Fair enough, then 3 hours later still no sign so I rang again and he is the pub having a few drinks, I was annoyed because he didn't ring to even tell me, I probably would be less annoyed if he had. I am a sahm with Ds all week and dp has weekends off so I like to do things together or even get a little break because he is here. I understand that it's his day off but he had plans to go out with his friends tomorrow! So why do this? Now he is not answering texts or calls and acting as if I've done something wrong!
AIBU?

Not normal behaviour at all, and completely unacceptable when there are kids involved. I'd be seriously re-evaluating the relationship if it was me.

YAdefinitelyNBU - this is impolite and inconsiderate behaviour of the worst kind. Does he normally do shit like this?

Good lord. What a knob. Is this normal behaviour from him?

YANBU. Arsehole.

1. How long have you been together?
2. Has he ever done anything like this before?
3. Have you had a row or anything v recently-is he pissed off with you for something else (not that it would make his behaviour ok, I'm just trying to understand how out of the blue this is)

What?!

Now I really do think he's a shit.

What's all that about??

I was going to suggest that he might be seeing someone else but anniewoo beat me to it.

Only getting back on now he contacted me at11 this morning i have been out since ten this morning so no idea when he came home. He stayed in a friends house. This has not happened before and I really feel for women who let it happen on a regular basis. I gave him what for on the phone today and he was very defensive which I got even more annoyed about. We are not talking now at home I am leaving him to take care of Ds. I have an exam to study for that I have tomorrow. I agree with every name you have called him I am just so disappointed that he thinks this is acceptable in his words 'because I never to anything like this'! Yeah because you have responsibilities!!

I know it's difficult, but put this aside for today and concentrate on getting ready for your exam, definately don't let it interfere with the zen calmness you need to get those answers out when you need them!

You've given him what for and you should now capitalise on the silence of not talking to each other to get your head together

Good luck for tomorrow

Good luck tomorrow.

Focus on your exam. It's even more shitty for him to take up all the 'free time' this weekend when he knows you have an exam on Monday, he should have been taking the DCs out so you could revise all weekend - this sort of childishness would be bad enough on a normal weekend, it's fucking unbelievable on a weekend before an exam. Does he not want you to pass? (I would be asking straight out if he was trying to undermine my study)

If you have other exams coming up, perhaps arrange other childcare rather than him on the weekends before to avoid him doing something like this again.

Lydia I know why you'd said it but I'm furious that she might have to make other arrangements because she can't trust her husband to come home and look after HIS children so she can study.

Grrrrrrrrrr!!