to be slightly bewildered by my inlaws excitement re ds potty training?

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I don't think I am! I mean it is harmless I'm sure but it is all a bit, well, weird.
DS is potty training at the moment and of course we all have to be very pleased when he performs on the potty or toilet. I have been known to do a special DS has been to the toilet dance. However inlaws came over today and took even that level of weirdness a step further.

1. mil calling DS's briefs 'panties.' As in 'ooooh let me look at your panties.' Just sounded wrong.

2. mil asking DS over and over and over and over to 'come and watch me have a little wee.' Happily DS declined.

3. mil asking fil over and over and over to 'have a little wee.' Fil did look a bit embarrassed.

4. when DS said he wanted to go to the toilet mil wanted to come and 'watch.' Now DS is actually quite private regarding the toilet and potty. Especially when it is for a poo. He prefers to be left alone, which is fair enough. So he shut the door on her and made me turn around. Mil was most put out. She shouted through the door the whole time (is it a big one? Aren't you a clever boy not going in your panties? Etc) and then said 'don't flush the toilet so nanny can come and see it.' WTF?
   Obviously we did flush the toilet and then she kept saying 'why did you flush it away, nanny wanted to see it.' I was waiting for her to get her camera phone out.

Actually I found it quite funny, except is got on DS's nerves as he is a stubborn little thing and won't be swayed by others. For example in the past I've tried to get DH to take DS with him to toilet to encourage him and DS was not interested but has potty trained pretty well overnight on his own terms. However, DS does seem to be embarrassed or at least have a sense of privacy over some things, pants are one and poos are another! My mil needs to get a hobby!

Your MIL is priceless. That's really funny!

Yes, actually it has given me a laugh. bless her enthusiasm but it was a bit ott!

Sorry but that was funny to read :o (I appreciate your pain though!)

She definately needs a hobby!

Perhaps you should show an excitable interest in her bodily functions and see how she likes it!
Is she normally a bit OTT about things/your ds? - it would drive me nuts!!!

MIL does sound a bit ott.

Ask her if she'd like to watch you have a little wee, or do a poo and then shout her up to see if she wants a photo look

TOTALLY weird in my opinion! I would be telling her so too -

"MIL, you're behaving very inappropriately. You're freaking me out so goodness knows how you're making DS feel. Could you stop please."

That is funny.

She does need to butt out though. Poor little fella could get all anxious. I can barely poo when someone's in the same house

Yes she is totally ott about everything involving DS but both mil and fil have always been a bit obsessed with DS's bowel movements. Pre potty training they spent a lot of time asking 'has he filled them?' And being delighted if he had. I was usually much less delighted. I did contemplate giving them some soiled nappies for Christmas.

Some women have difficulties with boundaries. I had to tell my MIL to leave my DH alone when he was ill at her house one Xmas. He had D&V when there (which she knew as kept having to dash off). She was so worried about him that she kept trying to follow him into the bathroom. I had to say leave him in peace. I get that mums will always worry but letting a 30 year old man shit in peace is sure a no brainer.

Oh bless you - I can imagine that this is really annoying for you, but it does read as very funny!

Err...advice wise I don't know. Tough one.
I can't even picturing it actually happening. My mil would so very not do this.

If she does it again, you'll have to usher her away, polite but firm.

Oh come on. That's quite normal. You should have let her take a photo of the unflushed poo to put on her Facebook. What kind of a DIL are you, she's just proud of her grandson.

I agree that you should say "DS is quite private about bodily functions, but I'm not. Could I watch you do a wee?" and "I've left my poo! I didn't flush! Come see it!"

I could text her some photos?

Odd.
Could you just tell ds that Nanny likes to watch people on the loo,don't worry. It is mere moments until he repeats this,I imagine she'll stop then :o

Buy Kenneth Williams' Diary, and ask them if this is how they want to end up (obsesssed about and reported details of every bowel movement he had)

Ummmmmmm

I have no advise altho this sinario would be hilarious to watch

YANBU btw