A close friends dd is coming up to a special birthday and she feeling pressured by her parents into accepting a very expensive present from a close family friend that actually she said she will not use (for good reasons), and really doesn't want them to waste their money on a gift that wouldnt be appreciated or used, and has said she would much rather they choose something off her wishlist (I am aware that some of you will say this is greedy and selfish, and she should be happy to get a pressie in the first place but she really isn't- most items are a fiver or under- mostly books as she is an avid reader) and if they wanted to have a splurge they could always get a couple. Seems reasonable. I will also add she is lovely, very generous and will always ask for peoples wishlists because she wants to be 100% sure that she is getting something that people will genuinely appreciate and want.
The pressy in question is a piece of jewllery but friends dd has SN and significant sensory issues and for this reason almost never wears such things, and also is not interested in the typical girly stuff.
Friends dd has confided in me that she just feels that her parents are trying to do the 'done thing' for the sake of it, and is getting fed up of what feels like she not listening to her. (the latest battle was the party dress- friends dd was made to try nunerous on having not worn one for 2 decades because she cant stand them and surprise surprise couldnt tolerate it, dont know what they had expected to have changed!). So I said I would post it here to get an unbiased opinion!