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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to want to be slim again?

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Newmummytobe79 · 11/02/2012 11:50

I'm not fat and probably most definitley have been too thin in my time, but I just want to get back to my pre-pregnancy figure + a few pounds.

I'm a stone over my pre pregnancy weight but will be happy with a loss of half a stone.

It will mean I can fit back in all my lovely dresses and I will feel attractive again. Not for anyone else but me.

I've had comments from family and friends saying 'ooh - don't go back to how thin you were before' 'ooh you look lovely now' 'ooh you're just right now'

But I don't feel it.

I'm not wanting to be skinny, just slim enough to feel good.

AIBU to ignore them and get to the weight I'm happy with?

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LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 11/02/2012 11:51

Yes, do what you want. I'd suggest not talking about it to friends and family though if you don't want comment.

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Newmummytobe79 · 11/02/2012 11:54

Thanks LyingWitch - I don't talk about it at all to friends and family but they seem to feel the need to comment on it all the time.

Just feeling sad as I tried on a few summer numbers this morning and they didn't look great :(

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uruculager · 11/02/2012 12:05

Sounds very vague, how big are you now? I know people who consider size 12/14 slim!

OhTheConfusion · 11/02/2012 12:06

If you are doing this for yourself then go for it. You appear to be sensible and not want to get to your pre pregnancy size but to feel better within yourself. Just out of curiosity, what size are you in clothes?

I have a friend who feels the same but she is currently a size 8 so I can understand her family's concern. However I am a size 16/18 and have had the same 'oh you don't need to loose weight' speech from a friend and my DM (but they are both the sort who INSIST you order desert when out then smugly announce to the waiter "not me, im watching my figure" when asked for their order :(.

SparkleSoiree · 11/02/2012 12:10

People's perspective on how much you should weigh varies from one person to the next.

What really matters is how you feel about it so be the weight you want and enjoy your life.

WorraLiberty · 11/02/2012 12:10

It's your body so don't discuss it with anyone and do what you need to do to feel good.

Some people say these things out of genuine concern, some say it because they don't like people being slimmer than them and some say it because they genuinely don't see an overweight person.

aldiwhore · 11/02/2012 12:14

YANBU to want this if you're not happy. So long as you're being truthful to yourself and aren't already superslim and likely to make yourself less than healthy.

Good luck with it. Exercise + healthy moderate diet and you should get where you want to be. x

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 11/02/2012 12:14

Myfitnesspal is a good website for tracking your food, exercise and getting tips, Newmummy, you can also chat there (and here) without RL people commenting on your progress all the time. Good luck. :)

SparkleSoiree · 11/02/2012 12:17

sorry forgot to say YANBU.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 11/02/2012 12:18

I ALWAYS forget that bit, Sparkle, I think I've only remembered half a dozen times in the two years of posting...

OhTheConfusion · 11/02/2012 12:27

Oh the YANBU is always my downfall too

Catstwattypoosituation · 11/02/2012 12:39

Of course yanbu. A restrictive diet will make you feel more miserable than being a dress size bigger than you'd rather be though.

SensitivityChip · 11/02/2012 12:47

Definitely not being unreasonable. I slimmed down after my first pregnancy and have never been so confident and happy with my body. After my second pregnancy I'm about half a stone over that now and while it's not a great deal of weight which other people would notice, that half a stone makes a big difference to how I feel iyswim.

severnofnine · 11/02/2012 12:54

YANBU. after 3 children ( the youngest being 2 yrs old) I weighted a stone andn a bit more than before children. I was a size 12 and when i said i was planning to lose a bit poeple said I shouldnt as i would get too skinny. I however felt bigger than i should be.
I've lost a stone and a half over the past 6 months- slowly by reducing portion size and limiting "treats" and increasing veg in my diet. I look SO much better in clothes. people keep saying "dont lose anymore you'll be too skinny..... whatever. I know I havent got a problem with food.

MitchieInge · 11/02/2012 12:57

it's difficult, is your idea of slim technically underweight according to gp or bmi or whatever?

I hover around wanting to maintain a weight that is probably too low and I think it drives me and some of the people around me a bit mad. If I went by pre-pregnancy weight I would definitely be underweight, but then how did I get pregnant?

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