To tell everyone about our pregnancy even though we haven't told the in-laws, eeek!

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I am 14 nearly 15 weeks pregnant. I have told my parents and family and they are all pleased. DH is putting off telling his parents as he knows he won't get a good reaction. We have 4 dc's and when we announced number 4 to the in-laws they told us we were mad so we can only imagine what the reaction this time will be!!

I want to announce to friends etc.... but can't until he tells his parents, which if he has his way will be when it arrives!!!!

What to do, I really want to announce it to everyone. Shall I give him a time limit? I can't leave it much longer or I will be getting fat anyway, or just announce and let them find out that way?!

I think a time limit is good.

From his PoV he doesn't want to ruin your experience by telling his parents if they're going to be negative, I get that, but by NOT telling them he's putting a downer on your pregnancy as well as you want to share the good news.

YANBU.

Make sure you both have your deaf ears on when you tell his folks.

Lol, we plan on going around and then telling them just before its time to leave! Or texting, or posting a letter, or getting the kiddies to do it!!!! :-D

or tell them it's twins

Then when you reveal it's one (is it?) they will be relieved and therefore happy for you! :)

Whatever their reaction, you and DH are over the moon, so enjoy it. Congratulations by the way!

Why even make a big issue about telling them? If their reaction was so unpleasant last time I really wouldn't bother ........ if they mention it when they see you and you are obviously pregnant just say something casually like 'oh, thought you already knew, didn't DH mention it?' and then change the subject or be even blunter, 'as you weren't that pleased for us last time we didn't think you'd want to know' .

Great ideas, thank you. Love the telling them its twins!!

Ragwort, I think you are right though, I shouldn't be bothered and should get on with telling people that will be happy for us.

Tell the in-laws over the phone - don't leave it to DH - and then leave them to digest the information. Really, unless were doing something like asking them to finance your newer, bigger, family it's none of their business how many you have. If you tell everyone else first and leave them out it will only add to the problem.

tbh, I think I'd say

We are having another child. We are thrilled about it, please be thrilled for us.

If it wouldn't start ww3, I'd also say - because your reaction when we announced our 4th hurt us and we do not wish a repeat of that.

but that's probably best left unsaid - at least at first. It's quite blunt!

Post them a scan picture with a post-it note saying "HELLO"!

Then ignore they're calls for a few weeks until they calm down.

Congratulations from me though!!

:)