to not throw a birthday party for DS?

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DS is going to be 2 at the end of the month. I have no plans at all to throw him a birthday party because:

• We'll be away on holiday;
• 3 other children in our circle of friends were born in the same week and are all having parties, so it would be hard to squeeze another one in;
• We can't really plan anything for family as SIL is due her first DC on his birthday;
• We threw a huge party for his 1st birthday and I'm not keen on getting into a one-better-than-last-year routine; and
• He is 2 and won't care, he's just excited about going on holiday and proudly telling everyone at nursery :)

DH thinks I am being really mean and that DS will be a 'social outcast' (only half joking). He is trying to persuade me to make a digger cake to 'outdo' last year's effort

I'm happy to make a cake and invite close family round for an informal evening if they aren't halfway across the country with SIL. AIBU?

YANBU he's 2 for goodness sake

Why doesn't your dh organise it and bake a cake?!!

YANBU, he is 2 and won't give a rats ass as long as there are presents and his favourite people

God, no. You'll have enough parties to organise over the coming years that he will actually want. Why bother with one he isn't bothered about?

Still recovering from 13 five year olds trashing our house last Saturday.

YANBU. He won't notice, at that age they don't, and you're having the family thing with the only important bit, the Cake! Good luck to SIL.

2? party? are you mad?

Making a cake and inviting family around is a party! Even if you didn't do that it would be fine.

Save the parties for when he's old enough to remember them.

Agree with Gumby

If your DH wants a party/cake let him organise/make one.

2 year olds don't like parties with lots of people. They like presents and cakes. Make or buy a cake and eat it with whoever is around - the less people the more cake for DS :)

Agree with parties when older. Also agree re DH baking a cake, although I have always baked or bought birthday cakes for mine, and expect my husband to always get me a birthday cake. The cake is important, leave the party.

I wouldn't really class having family round and a bit of cake as a party this time because there's a good chance that they won't actually be there and I won't care. My initial position was that the holiday (which I organised and paid for!) was the party but I have relented slightly.

Funnily enough, DS doesn't like cake

Glad IANBU!

BIL's birthday was last week. DH bought him a card on Saturday night and still hasn't got round to buying him a present. DH making a cake ahahahahahahaHA!

aye, YANBU. DS2 is 2 on Wednesday. We aren't having a party, just a family day together. He really won't know, or care. As I have learned there is plenty of time for parties. DS1 is 6 and we had his birthday here with 10 5/6yo'ds bouncing off the walls. Next time, cinema for a select few! Children don't really understand parties until they are 4 at least.

I wouldn't bother, neither he not anyone else will remember in a few years.
Funnily enough mum showed me a picture of me on my 1st birthday, just me in my high chair. Mum didn't know anyone so we didn't have any friends. I should have been lonely but mum said I was happy as Larry with my one candle and a price of cake!

YANBU. Definitely. As long as he has a cake!

for ds 2nd bday we are planning to go for dinner with DH's family at brewers fayre with a soft play area on the day itself, then at the weekend my DM and Dsis are treating us to peppa pig at the theatre.

We did a garden party for his first bday and it was great fun, but he doesn't go to any baby groups anymore because we now both work. I think that is plenty for a second birthday and he doens't need a "party"

YANBU. At 2 he won't care and would probably prefer a small family gathering.

I'm braving the party thing for the first time this year (DS1 will be 4) and have been amazed at how much work it has been. I'm glad I waited until now to do it, as I'd be exhausted if I'd started any earlier. As it stands, DS2 won't be getting his first one until he turns 18!