to want my dd and dgd to come to turkey on holiday with us?

[kaylasmum]

hi, we're going on holiday to Turkey in may this year, there's myself, my dp, my dd, 8 and ds 6. I've asked my 20yo dd if she'd like to come with us along with my 8 month dgd. She really wants to come but her dp can't get any time off from his work. He does'nt particularly want to go anyway.

My dd's partner is an alcoholic and quite regularly goes on benders for 3 days at a time. He is actually a really decent person sober but changes dramatically when drunk. My dd is worried that he'll get drunk while she's away and wreck their house.

I feel she deseerves a holiday as she suffers from anxiety and low self esteem, she needs a break.

soaibu in wanting my dd to have a well deserved holiday?

Yanbu

Yanbu. Sounds a lovely idea. Though I would understand if your dd felt she couldnt go as she probably feels in a difficult situation.

I think it's a lovely gesture and I really hope she goes on holiday with you.

The bigger issue is her DP. He works, is lovely sober, but she's scared he'll trash the house? Is he getting help?

That's really worrying and I feel awful for your DD. She should go with you and if he does trash the house ... would that not be grounds to leave him?

Am I being really stupid here - but how is he with the 8 month old baby?