To try to explain to DH that the kids auntie/uncle really cba with them

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He always takes the kids to see them- they never ever ever come round to see us. When his niece and nephew was little he always used to give them lifts to parties/babysit etc. His DSIS/BIL have not once babysat for us let alone offered. It really really realllllllllllly pisses me off the way DH is like some little lapdog running round after them when they clearly dont give a fuck. AIBU to say stuff keep chasing them- let them come to us

YABU if your dh and your dc are happy with the way things are and you don't have to go anyway.

He baby sat when he had no commitments - they have commitments and sodo you

YABU to expect another family to drop everything to facilitate your family.

Perhaps they prefer to to see Dh and DC in their own environment?

I don't think you're being unreasonable. It's give and take in any relationship and should not be only ever take.

It the same set up in my family I very rare go to my siblings home, yet we all meet up our mothers on a Friday evening, we do dinner and the kids play together.

It doesn't mean I cba but just how my family works

I think you should keep out of it although you might well be justified in thinking it's unfair. But family is family and you should be happy that they are close.

My DH's younger brother does a lot for DH - airport lifts, fetching things in his car etc and I know from a comment that his DW once made that it narked her a bit.

But what she is failing to appreciate is that DH supported his brother financially for many years in the past and DH was also responsible for his DB getting his current job (DH knew the boss and introduced them) and so he has a lot to be grateful for!

I'd find it obnoxious, but maybe dh is better off being oblivious? Ignorance can be bliss

I think YABU although can see your frustration. But, as long as your DC and DH aren't bothered about going, it's not harming anybody so I'd let it be.