There's an ongoing court battle at the moment. My sister had her children removed from her care when they were babies 6 yrs ago. My mum has raised them. They're now 5 and 6 and happy children.
However, she has now applied to have them back - which in a sense is fine. However, I lived with her for 9 months last year and was horrified at the abuse towards her younger son, who she was able to keep and has living with her. He's now 3. There was so much wrong in that household, in writing it all down it covered 20 A4 pages! Of course this was reported to the authorities but nothing was done about it - they clearly covered up extremely well, despite there also being reports made by someone else who lived there for a while and a neighbour which was frustrating in itself.
But, just a couple of months ago she put this application in to court requesting she has the girls returned. Clearly, this is a concern. But my poor mum is absolutely devestated - not because my sister wants them back but because she's extremely worried about the level of care they'd receive should they be returned.
Anyway, my sister is playing a relatively good game and we have no idea which way it'll turn out. Of course we know what should happen, but whether the SW's dealing with it also see that, who knows.
But I'm so angry and upset with her for what she's putting my mum through. She's telling so many lies - of which everyone in the family know to be lies - she's obviously just trying to win her case. She accused by stepdad of being a paedophile!! I was horrified she could stoop so low. But after investigating there was obviously no concern there but that doesn't take away that worry of being investigated, iyswim. But after one serious allegation comes another and another. My mum is completely racked with worry. She's been crying so much all morning saying she doesn't know how much more she can take and I feel so sorry for her I'm crying too.
My elder brother died unexpectedly in January last year at just 28 yrs old and my mum, cleary has not managed to fully deal with losing a child yet and now my sister puts all of this on her and simply does not care. My mums marriage also broke down following the death of my brother (through the stress and pressure) and she's done incredibly well to keep going and get the rest of her family through those tough times. But, to her it feels like in a space of a year, she's not only lost her son and husband, but her daughter has done all of this and so their relationship has deteriorated and she could potentially lose her 2 grandchildren too - not to mention the worry of her husband being able to also fight for residence of their 12 yr old son who remains at home, although he is adamant he isn't going to. But I think her level of trust is now non existent.
Why does one person have to deal with so much in such a short space of time? I'm angry and upset on her behalf. :(
I just had to have a rant and where better than mumsnet!