to think everyone is surrounded by martyrs? Or is it just me?

[Newmummytobe79]

It seems to be getting worse or it's just getting to me more!

I'm surrounded by people who, mainly on facebook & twitter, bang on about:

How early they got up - much earlier than everyone else
How long they worked - much longer than everyone else
Working weekends - when no-one else does (!)
Children being hard work - because everyone elses are perfect?
Being ill - much iller than everyone else!

It's doing my head in and I've often found myself trying to justify my life by bloody joining in!

I'm making a conscious decision not to join in from now on ... but it just drives me mad!

Everyone has it tough, even those with perfect well hidden problems in their lives.

Is it just me or does martydom seem to be on the increase?

Martyrdom is so common these days :)

Even back in the sixties I knew a few elderly martyrs- something tells me that they had probably been practising for a while, too

I think it is more that we are reaching the martyr age ourselves and therefore our friends will be too.

Martyrdom not Martydom!

My spelling is FAR worse than anyone elses - obviously!

Just defriend Marty Dom.

Is it cybermartydom then? I am glad I am not on Facebook or twitter. Seems to me that your friends have nothing interesting to be narcissistic about on these sites and so need to PUT SOMETHING.

My friends on Facebook are worse than yours.

Like that?

YABU

I'm not surrounded by martyrs, literally or figuratively.

No MINE are Tigresswoods doh! I promised not to join in again!

I will defriend Marty Dom - he's the worst!

This does annoy me. I have done a number of jobs where there have always been people that have told me they have no time for lunch breaks, they do lots of work at home, they never have time even to make a cup of tea, etc etc. Meantime I do all that and a bit of mumsnet - and seem to actually be just as productive as them.

I would be tempted to reverse boast e.g. I was so laaazy today. Just got up at 11ish, and being sitting here watching tv in pyjamas with kids and its 5pm. Will get a takeaway as I can't be bothered to cook. Or my kids are great - all sat watching tv all saturday so I was able to just lie on the sofa all day reading and drinking wine.

Nope, not surrounded by Martyrs or Marty's.

Except maybe my brother. He has it worse than everyone!

Lol Lesley !

It's true. I think a lot of people are just very, very boring and can't think of anything to say except what boring crap they have just been doing before they had the boring idea to broadcast it. And then they realise everyone else has already done it so they try to out-do/out-bore each other.

Lesley33 ii think we must have some shared colleagues! I managed a team where a couple were like that. I offered time management training & pointed out the importance to productivity of having lunch breaks. Their colleagues were much more productive than them & made fewer mistakes. Funnily enough they were also the most likely to spend ages on banal office gossip during work time.

The same people always wrote an essay on their sick absence forms, describing timings & every symptom. I once got three longish paragraphs, starting like 'well around lunchtime on Sunday I thought. I was getting a pain, but I wasn't sure, so I took some Ibuprofen.... by midday Monday my face was more swollen than it's ever been, my neighbour said...', just to say toothache!

Sad faces, aargh those fricking sad faces are guaranteed to rile me up.

I'm so sad, ill, upset but don't ask me, I couldn't possibly talk about it. :( :( :(
(pay me attention, pay me attention, they mean)

!AARGH!

Like people that say "don't even ask me about my day, it was awful" , they only say that so people will reply with "oh poor you, what happened???"

If you don't want to talk about it, don't say anything, by saying "don't ask" you are clearly looking for sympathy

(I never ask!!)

You could help them all by replying "nobody cares" to each whiney status.

It's all a farse, really. Bet if you lived in their shoes for a day, you would see the true version of their lives. (i.e. probably having a better day than us)

I never measure myself against anyone anymore because I found out that actually other people are just as messed up as me!

Let em moan on. Sorry sods. Nothing worse going on in their lives?

I'm guilty as charged on the illness martyrdom front, but then, I am a trooper considering I'm iller than anyone else.

YANBU.

I probably write and say martryish things, but it's all a cover up. Generally I'm pretty happy and things are good, but I'd feel smug writing and saying those things, so I highlight the bad bits instead. Secretly though, I'm pretty content.

My work mug says "shut up and deal with it"

Is probably a bit mean as I am in HR but I would include it on the "maxims you live" by thread :)

along with "suck it up soldier"

martyrdom gets my goat......people with real problems however do get my empathy and support

I'm far too busy and under appreciated to answer this. Nobody gives a damn about all the wonderful thigns I do all day or how hard I work to make things wonderful for them. I'm making a beautiful roast dinner tonight and dp cares so little he wont even be there to eat it.

No one appreciates me but I just smile sweetly and get on with it all because its so important to get it right for your family

Can't be arsed to go food shopping so will stop in the house instead and do bugger all and watch Jeremy Kyle on itv1 + 1 then loose women and then Jeremy Kyle on ITV2 and then Judge Judy. I can't even be arsed to get the kids from school later - do you think they'll keep them there tonight?