I lost my job this week,and my youngest is off to school this year right now

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I feel so redundant already,guess im a little down.

I have always tried to be there with the dc's ,taking jobs to fit around them even if I hated it,and this job I hated trust me but you do what you have to do to get by,that i'm not complaining about.

I now find myself in a situation where I have reached a crossroads ,the youngest is off to school soon, im bored and I dont know where to go from here,as I still want to be there for them,as they are so little.

I want my own life so Full time,part time which to choose,was also saving to get married and buy a house with dp,he works so hard but im torn as to what to do for the best.

Dp is great would give me the world but I want my own money and to build my own world something that I have done,I have achieved ,why do I feel so sad right now as normally im so upbeat and positive,just needed to talk I guess.

What do you do? Could you build your own business? Sounds like that would fit with achieving something but also being there for the dcs?

Redunancy in the employment sense absolutely sucks btw - even if you hate the job it's a big stress.

What do you want to do? What's your dream? If you have one start at the dream and work back, start a path that will get you there even if it feels unrelated at present. (My dream is a cafe by the sea, my path is to get earning money to afford it, and get the basic qualifications for food prep etc., researching running a small business)

If you haven't got a dream, then what work attracts you? I'm interested in so much its hard to pick one, another problem! Pick something and go for it.

Its very difficult. Enjoy the last few months of having your lo's around you, put the feelers out for ideas, seek out dreams....

You're going to be down because of losing your job, but try and enjoy the extra time and don't put yourself under too much pressure, you can't fix this overnight so savour the bits you love right now. x

Thanks Northernlurker and Aldiwhore for listening and responding ,I have always been from a Customer,Sales focused background ,my dream is property so have applied for jobs in that field.

Your dream sounds great Aldiwhore , I believe you should have a dream then you have something to work towardsIi wish you all the best dont forget me when you have your cafe,i'll nip in for a latte x.

If your interested in property could you may buy a cheaper place that needs doing up, sell it and then use some profit to get a place for you and DP and another to do for rental? Maybe go into property renovation, interior design?!, rental?

YANBU to feel down or want your own life.