Sorry, this is boring and trivial but it is really annoying me.
A year ago, after running a successful quiz night for our local church, DH agreed he would do one again this year. A few weeks ago we agreed a date in March. The woman who organises social events for the church is a friend of ours, has been for years. DH and I do the quiz together - he writes the questions and is quizmaster, I help with the scoring etc.
Anyway, today we have been invited to a big birthday party that clashes with the quiz night - again, good friends and I would love to go to the party. DH says he is going to the party. He will write the quiz but they will have to get someone else to be quizmaster on the night.
I think this is really bad form and that he is letting people down and backing out of a commitment. His attitude is "Yes, I said I would do it, but now something else has turned up that I'd rather do".
My suggested solution is that we do the quiz night and go along to the party afterwards (both are local) - I reckon we would still catch a couple of hours of partying.
AIBU to:
(a) think this is really crap of him
(b) to consider going to the quiz night myself anyway and turning up late to the party.