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To make dd (6) earn every minute of her screen time?

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FauxFox · 07/02/2012 17:31

Disastrous parents eve - she won't get on with her work, distracted by everything, playing the fool (falling off chair/dancing etc) basically delaying/avoiding her work. She is capable, there is some examples of work done well but alot unfinished and in a class of 30 I can see how hard it must be. They made her stay in at break this week and she 'magically' finished the work she had been avoiding for the morning in a few mins.

She is pretty much the same for any more difficult homework (theatrical 'suffering', trying to get me to tell her the answer, focusing on how to not do it rather than trying etc)

I had the same last year when she refused to write and had to work on getting her to do a bit every day at home for the last term and a half of year 1 and she did improve at school. I thought we were over the hump. Obviously not.

She doesn't seem to care or want to do her best so I am thinking of getting her to do independent worksheets at home to win tokens that translate into minutes of screen time (tv/computer/wii) and if she has no tokens, no screens.

Does that sound fair? I'm thinking once she gets used to working independently and finishing in a reasonable time she will find it easier to do at school...am I a huge meanie?

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SuePurblybilt · 07/02/2012 17:33

Sounds alright to me. But I too am a meanie.

mumto2andnomore · 07/02/2012 17:35

Sounds good to me, could you ask the school to tell you each day if she has behaved well there and if so that gains her some screen time too ?

MrsTerryPratchett · 07/02/2012 17:40

Good for you, go for it!

FauxFox · 07/02/2012 17:43

Thanks - her teacher is a bit of a softy and says she is trying but i'm not convinced Hmm I just want her to get her act together so she doesn't fall behind and end up having a nightmare next year...i'm not expecting rocket science, just that she will complete the basics in a reasonable way...it feels like i'm being a 'pushy mum' but it's not that I want academic greatness, just the ability to sit down and get something done to a reasonable standard without a massive palaver!

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WowOoo · 07/02/2012 17:45

If you start off being a meanie it's much easier to be nicer later.
If you start out too nice it's harder to be a meanie later. Perhaps!

I say great idea.

mrsjay · 07/02/2012 17:49

sounds a good idea wil make her focus and its ok to be a meanie as wow said its easier to start of a meanie then as you get results then you can be nicer and more relaxed , I wonder if you can concentrate on her school homework to start with and see about the seperate sheets or does she not get homework ?

MrsTerryPratchett · 07/02/2012 17:59

WowOoo you are so right. Boundaries are hard to set up but very easy to maintain. I know someone who has this system and her DS now polices himself. I saw him checking his watch before logging on yesterday so he could manage his allowed time. Bloody marvellous.

FauxFox · 07/02/2012 18:12

Great - IANBU Smile now to see it through!

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