to pretty much ignore DP...

[RingMyBella]

even though he has been made jobless through no fault of his own and probably needs consoling, so I can sit in front of MN and rant while asking him to bring me coffee? Should I get off my arse and tidy up?

You sound lovely...

I try

Or maybe get off YOUR arse and see if you can find a job? Oooh the possibilities are endless!

I have one, thanks for the advice though! :)

Sounds like an excellent plan if the eventual goal is to end up having him as an xdp. Ranting about virtual strangers and starting threads attacking them is a far more productive use of your time than supporting your partner who's going through hell.

Get it off your chest... then see how he is feeling. People get pretty depressed after redundancy.

Pleasure.....

I will always fight back, Nixea, when I have been wronged. Anyway, I think DP will be fine

P.S. the assumptions people make are hilarious! MN = better than Facebook!

This is getting silly now. A lot of people defended you, don't make us look like idiotst, I know you were hurt but this isn't the way to go.

• idiots.

Actually, all joking aside, my DH (a builder) is out of work at the moment and his self esteem is rock bottom.....I wouldnt make a joke out of it purely because I know the impact it has on him, would feel very disrespectful to be honest.

Still, some people deal with bad things with humour :)

I beg your pardon??? I got rid of that thread.... did I not?

I agree that being out of work is shitty but there's an upside to everything and in this case, he gets to spend more time with DS while I go to work. Every cloud!

Exactly......I love it in the way that I get to escape the hell of the school run as I up my hours and work full time ...not that I let on to him though!

Posted on wrong thread (again, becoming a habit). As you were.

I. HATE. the school run with a passion but unfortunately everyone in my household, if not my flat block, is aware of this.

OP, I think you're maybe being a bit harsh.

Say I'm being sexist if you like but a lot of men are still socialised to see their social worth to a significant extent through their ability to work and provide for a family. In that context, being made redundant can be devastating as in one fell swoop they've lost their earning power and their role in a team/work context, ie a major chunk of their identity. More men are SAHPs these days than 30 years ago but it's still relatively unusual and not nearly seen as an equally 'valid' choice for men as it is for women. It really isn't the same for men as for women, so I'd go a bit easy on him if I were you.

It is crap. Completely crap. But we have to make light of these situations, if we didn't at least try and laugh at things, I'd have literally gone mad