to continue saying the dummy is lost even though I've just found it?

[thinneratforty]

dd2 is 3, she still has a dummy at night time, I know, I know, she's way too old for it. Last week I threw out three of the four that she had as they were really dirty. She had one left. Last night she lost it. We couldn't find it anywhere. So she went to bed without it. Was absolutely fine, no noise, no crying, nothing. Was up at 5am, but that's because she's got a temp and cold and is off sick from nursery today.
Have just found the damned thing. Shall I give it her back? I shouldn't should I? She's asked for it about twice, has cried for a total of 1 min today about lack of dummy. I should just continue to say it's lost shouldn't I?
She's a bit upset 'cos we'd been telling her that the fairies will want the dummies back at some point and will leave her a present, now she's complaining the nasty fairies have taken dummy and not given her a present.

I told mine they got a present once they have done ten good sleeps without theirs they stopped having them around 3 (now 5 and 6)

No. Lose it permanently, now! But get her a gift from the dummy fairy who was a bit cross that mummy had lost the dummy but got in touch to say that your dd still deserved her present.

Go get a present! Hide it somewhere silly like the airing cupboard and exclaim loudly how the fairies must have thought she slept in there.

Make it positive.

buy present and make a fuss tell her how grown up she looks without the dirtydummy.

I'd give a present (we too have been prepping our DD for the dummy fairy). I think out of sight out of mind. She seems to have done brilliantly today without it so i'd get something quick and do whta PP's have suggested.

We're coming up to 3 and our DD still uses her dummy in bed (she's only ever been allowed it there) and know this is coming so I'm a bit jealous you're past the worst of it! I'm dreading the fact that her 10 month old brother has them in his cot and she might sneak in there for a fix!

I am struggerling with one of the twins (the other dosn't have one) he is also 3 we took older daughters away at 2. DT2 had to have major brain surgery so we said we would remove dummy after it has all settled down - he had surgery and first thing he asked for when he came round wasn't mummy oh no it was red deedee. Surgery was in dec....

He NEVER has it outside the house only at bedtime i know it has to be done but he love his deedee :(

Dummy fairy took it IMO for babies who have no dummies and she has written your dc a lovely note

Am stuck in the house today as she's not well, but I like the idea of dummy fairy leaving present in airing cupboard. Thank you. Now have to persuade hubby it's the right thing to do, he's under the impression it's child abuse to take a dummy off a child, bit soft doesn't come into it.

Tell him it's
Worse to potentially delay and inhibit speech and affect teeth etc and he will soon change his tone

Write a fairy letter too op

I seriously thought my dd was going to go to school and still have a night time dummy she was almost 4 before i lost it I think if you dont want her to have it then continue it to be lost , i was too scared to endure bedtime meltdowns thats why she had it that long , she didnt have it during the day just for naps then bed , but If you can cope with it keep it lost

and yes buy a present my dd is almost 19 and still has her bunny from the dummy fairy

my SD has affected her teeth using a dummy too long they have started to protrude (mum didnt want to get rid, havent had one in our house since she was 2.5) She was only persuaded to part with it when she started school and snuck it with her one day, she was laughed at by the kids and mortified afterwards so she put it in the bin herself, I'd loose it if I was you and give her the present as others have suggested

sorry that should have said leave it lost im too busy watching tv!

This happened to us only I spotted the dummy down the side of Dd's bed and squirrelled it away when she wasn't looking. Itold her I was sure it would turn up eventually, she never asked for it again.
If you were preparing to move on from the dummy anyway don't give it back. A little treat will help ease the loss if she continues to mention it.

There's a lovely book called I love my cloth which deals beautifully with the issue.

I wouldn't give it back. We had the earth of a time trying to get DS off his night-time dummy and in the end put our foot down and said once he'd chewed the last one to bits, that was it.

In the end he handed it over. I wish we'd never given one to him in the first place (he was a very poor sleeper to begin with) as now he bites his nails instead .