to want to have a meal out within discussing diets, calories, weightwatchers etc?

[lottielou39]

Seriously. i've been out with groups of women recently and they've ordered salads and diet cokes and discussed losing weight (whilst I sit with my sticky toffee pudding and wine) and it's a bit depressing. These are slim women too, anything from a size 10-14. (I'm a size 14) Not obese. Not overweight really. But ruddy obsessed with their weight. I woud just love to go out once and see everyone tuck in properly and eat whatever they like, with wine, and chocolate pud etc, without worrying how many bastard points it is, or how many bastard grams of fat in it, etc..

YANBU about the topic of conversation, but YABU about what they actually eat.

YADNBU about wanting your friends to have a good time.

Why go to a restaurant to eat salad and drink diet coke? No thank you.

When I go out I make darn sure it's for a treat - 2 or 3 courses of something delicious I wouldn't normally have at home and a couple of glasses of wine.

Find someone else to socialise with

Different friends? None of my female friends are like that, although most of my meals out are with husband and kids, or extended family and we all enjoy our food.

I once was out for a long, boozy lunch with a friend and she said, 'I like coming out with you because you're greedy and like eating like me' .

We often have wistful conversations about the days pre-DCs when we would go out drinking cocktails all afternoon then stuff ourselves with a humungous banquet plus extras at the Chinese restaurant near my house, before coming back to mine and taking a sofa each for a long lie down to recover.

I'm on WW now .

YADNBU - it's boring and dull and makes me feel irritated. I have every sympathy with someone trying to lose a few pounds but don't force it on other people and trip me into feeling guilty about what I'm eating just so you can feel better about yourself. This is the reason I only really like going out with DP so I don't have the 'Oh no, I couldn't possibly order that.' or 'Oh but that's like 15 sins' rather than any meaningful conversation.

And whilst we're at it, don't get me started on the people who sit there eating 'low-fat' yoghurts etc and bang on about how virtuous they're being - have you read the ingredients list???

YABU. Their life, their choice.

Out of interest, do you ever moan to them about your size when getting ready to go out and partay?

No, I don't moan to them about my size because I'm not preoccupied with body image or obsessed with what my arse looks like in a mirror. Honestly. There are more important things to get stressed about.

I know what you mean. I find it annoying to go out for a meal with people who bang on about their meal choice, how "light" or "healthy" it is, then start commenting on other things on the menu "how stodgy" etc... or even worse, when they tut at other people's choices and say like "oh really, I couldn't manage all that!" argh just choose what you blooming well like and eat it without the running commentary!

Oh i can't stand that! Going out for a meal is supposed to be a treat!
Come out with me I'll help you devour the dessert menu!

MIL was dieting the years I was going through pregnancies.

No other woman was allowed to enjoy any other food to her - not even pregnant ones like me. Wasn't very nice thankfully she seems to be over this.

YANBU

YANBU - out with two friends a while ago, 1 is constantly yo-yoing on WW up and down from about a 12 to a 16 and constantly on about being "good" or "bad". We were having lunch and the other one, who is a 10 but with decent curves and spends half her life at the gym and training for mountain climbs and half marathons had a pudding. Friend 1 looked like she was chewing a wasp and complained after about how it wasn't fair that friend 2 could eat that and look the way she does - a) boring conversation b) fair doesn't come into it. Friend 2 works bloody hard as she would probably be about a stone heavier if she didn't and chooses to DO something so that she can have that pudding.

Didn't we do this topic to death yesterday. If you don't like the conversation change it.

lottielou I'll got out to dinner with you and we can pig out on at least 3 courses and sup wine a plenty whilst discussing the merits of chocolate and wine on ones psyche.

A friend once said to me, 'I like coming to dinner at yours RP because you make so much food that my greed doesn't impede anyone else's.'

This is what you want in a social meal, restaurant or otherwise.............

In normal life I eat tofu sandwiches for lunch, no joke

i agree. i work with a group who discuss food constantly. On Monday i hear about every single morsel of food and drink which has passed their lips and how many points were in it. They even have apps on their phone to calculate the points of everything.

I took cake in for an occasion and they asked how many points per slice? I don't know, it's food, not an elaborate scoring system!

mind numbingly boring :(

YANBU - it's fucking tedious - JUST EAT THE FRIKKING FOOD.

I am doing ww and am likely to pick sensible food but I don't discuss it with all and sundry there nor do I calculate the points at the table!
YANBU!