AIU for being upset by dp family?

[Bubblebell1]

Ds2 Is 5 today. Not had 1 single card, text, phone call from dps family. That's all 4 of his brothers or his mum and dad.
Feel sad for Ds2 and wish dp would say something. But as usual he keeps quiet.

Are these people who you have regular contact with?

isn't he at school? I wouldn't expect to hear from family until after the child had come home...? and if they live locally perhaps they would drop round?

Yeah regular contact. Live too far away to pop round. No school today due to snow, he's had a great day tho. All through the day I've had calls, texts, emails wishing him happy birthday but not 1 from dp family!

has postman been today maybe due to snow=no post

Yeah we got a cards from Cyprus from my family!

Know how you feel, DHs family is like this too, except his mum - she's lovely
mostly

Just move on - kids won't give it much thought unless you do. People like that aren't worth bothering over.

Are they like this with DS1? How about previous years?

My DH's family are exactly the same. I did used to buy for his families kids but after a few years of nothing back I gave up. It's not nice but my boys don't even notice any more.

Birthdays just aren't a big deal for some people. Enjoy YOUR family, celebrate and have a wonderful time with your DS, he probably won't even notice. DD is 9 today and hasn't (and won't) receive anything other than presents from us and her brothers. It makes me sad sometimes, but my dad is elderly and in a care home (and hasn't remembered a birthday since my mum died), DH's mum is a selfish arse, my sister never remembers any of our birthdays and DH's brother and wife have made a point of ignoring our kids' birthdays and Christmas ever since the present I sent their DD for her birthday three years ago genuinely got lost in the post (we're in Oz, they are in the UK).

Well, I think it's horrible and your dh should not remain quiet if his parents make no effort to acknowledge their DGC's birthday. Birthdays might not be a big deal for lots of people, but they generally are a big deal for children and grandparents should care about that.

I would make exactly the same effort for them as they have made for your child - none.

That said, I would give them the benefit of the doubt until the end of today, just in case they are planning to call round later.