Mortified! Just spoke to someone on phone, said something sweary and was then told that I'm on speakerphone! AIBU to think people should say who else is in the car?

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Again, mortified!

Said something sweary and a little rude (because that's the way we talk to each other) only to be told that her parents were also in the car and I was on speakerphone!

Apparently her bluetooth connects to her car so the speaker comes through the radio or something.

What is the speakerphone etiquette?

AIBU to expect to be told that I'm on speakerphone and that X and Y are also present.

This has happened to me too

Not sure on the etiquette really, since it is actually hard to announce the speakerphone. You sort of have to say 'Hi X, you're on speakerphone' all in one breath when they answer, and everyone else is left wondering what you would've said if you didn't know!

My phone also connects via bluetooth through my radio, and if someone calls I ALWAYS tell them they're on speakerphone!!

YANBU

You always would tell someone they were on speakerphone, general good manners

my car will be able to do that when I sort it and I would always answer and tell the person unless I was alone in the car

It's definitely good manners to tell someone they are on speakerphone.

good manners - exactly!

not even for rude/sweary things, just for personal reasons - what if I had said something personal?

I'm so angry but also at wat her parents heard me say.

YeaH my DH has this in our car for work and I always start the conversation with a very awkward
'er.... hi.... are you alone?'

YANBU - I would always say "I'm on speakerphone and DH is here too.

I take it you'll be alerting her to proper speakerphone ettiquette next time you see her!

Dh was merrily telling his dad all about the bout of the shits he had when he heard a noise in the background and suddenly realised he was on speakerphone and his dad's girlfriend had heard every word!

Yes, you should tell people if they are on speakerphone.

Sarah - absolutely! The conversation just went dead and then she said 'Oh, I'm just driving my mum and dad to the chemist and I'll call you back later'

While her parents know that I'm so tired because DH and I had a 'bit of a session' last night. And that I was 'fucked' to say the least!

This happened to me when dh and I first moved in together. He went to pick up his parents so they could see our new house and told me he would be at least a couple of hours as he was planning on stopping for a cup of tea when he got there. So I got busy cleaning and tidying everything ready to show off, and dh (then dp) phoned me after about 1hour when he was about ten minutes away. Obviously he was in the car and I was on speakerphone. Cue me then getting all uptight and telling him he was an arse and I wasn't ready and couldn't he bugger off somewhere else for another hour so I could finish. I didn't realise I was on speakerphone until I heard hid Dad cough loudly and clearly.

His parents heard the lot, but had the good grace not to mention it when they arrived an hour later.

So YANBU! Why is it that people pick up mobile phones and always announce where they are, but do not do the same thing when they are on bloody speakerphone?!

Yes, it would be nice to know if your call and what you say could be heard by others but surely the answer should be not to swear or be rude. Just be prepared for others to be able to hear you. YABU.

RuleBritannia - I was not swearing at, or being rude to my friend I was merely speaking to her in the jovial (x rated ) way that we always speak to each other (and have done for years)

YABU. All very Bridget Jones not to warn people IMO

When DH and I were first courting

You just need to be careful.My mother is hard of hearing-I don't think she can be expected to say at the start of every call that anyone in the room can hear every word.