To want to see that my DD gets to school warm, dry and without falling on her arse

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Just had a massive job trying to persuade DD (9) that she should a) wear boots to school and then change into her school shoes and b) that I might walk round to the bus stop with her.

The school bus has a habit of not turning up so with heavy fog and icy roads this morning, I just wanted to check that she got safely to school, and as the pavements were both slushy and icy, boots seemed like the best option as her school shoes are Mary Jane style which don't have any grip and wouldn't keep her feet dry.

You would think that I had asked something really awful of her the fuss she made, but I stuck to my guns, made her wear the boots and walked some of the way with her - as soon as I could see that the pavements weren't too bad I diverted and went to the local shop to get the tea bags we 'needed' so she didn't have to be seen with me .

The thing is though, as much as her attitude pisses me off I can sort of see her point as not one other kid had boots on - they were slipping and sliding all over the place, as I was even in snowboots, and there wasn't another parent in sight.

All I wanted to do was see that my DD got safely to school and was warm and comfortable but now I feel like the world's most over-protective mother :(

dont be silly children expecially girls are sent from the devil just to annoy us , of course she needs to wear boots if its cold or wet outside your dd is on the road to going to high school without a jacket in winter and all the other sillyness that comes with being a teen , Dont fret about it maybe shouldnt have said you were walking her to the bus kids hate feeling babied but apart from that you are not over protective at all ,

and going to the shop*

I can sympathise, but at 9 she needs to make her own choices of whether she wants to stay warm and dry or wet and cold.

Fwiw, DS2 (12) was sensible this morning and wore wellies (a walk to the bus stop) but DS1 (15) wouldn't and I saw him slip sliding down the street. DS2 has a habit of leaving stuff at school or in the school bus though, so I can see either his school shoes or wellies being left on there (just like his pe kit on Fri).

dizzy my dd is 14 (today ) and she wears a warm jacket to school and some of them tease her she walks a mile to school so she doesnt give a fig tbh cos she is warm ,

I still think you need to pick your battles

YANBU but this is just the start fo things to come. My 13yo neice still insisting on wearing a short sleeve shirt, knee socks and shoes to school. How she hasn't died of hypothermia I will never know :)

There comes a time when they have to feel the consequences of their own decisons, but I agree that ging to school is not it.

I think it probably is gamer but she's only 9 FFS, I thought I had a few more years!

DD turned 24 recently and lives with her own DP now. This is the first winter I've seen her wear proper decent waterproof boots to walk to work in (she has a two mile walk).

She still doesn't wear a decent coat though

YANBU
9y can be particularly stroppy, but they are young enough not to enjoy the results.
If DD1 doesn't take her coat and gets cold and wet she comes into the kitchen an leans on the stove.
If my 10y gets cold and wet we get moan and whine for 30 minutes.

There's a time to step back and let them choose but 9 is probably a bit young!

DS1 ( 13 ) had a I'm Too Tough For A Coat moment on Friday, his dad wanted to insist but I thought let nature take it's course and sure enough this morning he left looking like Amundson on his way to the pole!

I sent mine to school with vests, long sleeve tops, school polo shirts, jumpers, leggings, trousers and boots!

Well you won't get a medal for it...... Most parents of 9 year olds are a bit more realistic, as you have found out!

Nobody wants to be the one with the 'embarassibg mother'

Jeez - wait til she gets to 15!

DsD had a massive strop last night because her friends' schools were closed and hers was open. It was a joint parental/world conspiracy to stop her playing in the snow, but then at 15 everything is a world conspiracy against you.

We had shouty matches with the 14 and 12 year olds in the Saltire housethis morning. DH stupidly said to them "If you don't wear a coat you're not leaving the house"

MY dds seem to be in the minority they must be uncool they always wear jackets and dd1 is in her fleece most days , we are in scotland though so it is cold but I do see girls walking to school with their hairband skirts on pump shoes and fashion jackets they have a blue tinge about them though

YANBU. She is only 9!

Coats?

What are these items of which you speak?

Now the most sensible footwear for the snow is one's faux uggs because they are waterproof because they are because why are you so stupid?

Personally I would make her wear the boots. I wouldn't walk her round to the bus stop though, if she usually walks there on her own. Children need to learn how to cope with snow, a few inches of snow on the groung doesn't = extreme weather conditions.

We went out of here this morning looking like we were heading up Everesat without sherpas! You could only tell which child was which by their height, they were so muffled up, and I had my ice grippy thingies on my shoes. We all made to school, and I made it home again, upright, nobody fell, nobody got wet or cold, and that's what matters. I just sort of basked a bit in the nice smug "well if I can make it to school on foot so can everyone else" feeling. I don't walk all that well at the best of times and making it over ice is just like winning the Marathon to me
oh and YANBU! now I finished boasting about the fact I can impersonate a weeble

Well I'm relieved to say she came home (wearing her boots!) and reported that two of her friends also had boots on and one of their Mums gave them a lift to the bus stop so I am not the only over-cautious Mum in the village :)

From the other perspective, I'm so sick of kids coming into my classroom wearing nothing warmer than their school jumper, moaning that it's cold inside and then leaving the door to my demountable classroom wide open They're not big on sense, are they?!