To say "no actually, I come to work for the money"?

[ImOnABreak]

I have 3 dc, dd1 is 3.7 and dts are 2.1. dp works 6 days a week.

I work in a bar/restaurant 5 nights a week.

Dp and I pass each other on the doorstep, I struggle to actually see my friends or family as they mostly work days, can't remember the last time I had any real time to myself etc...

I love my dc and feel totally blessed with dts and have adjusted my work life to fit around them. Previously worked in an office but had to leave as the childcare for three meant I would be paying to work.

My job is ok, no real stress, lucky to have one at all, some shifts can be exhausting but some customers are lovely.

But if I hear the phrase "oh, you must come to work for a break" I might just snap!

No, actually, I come to work purely for the cash. If I was going to have a break I would go to the gym, meet a friend, have more than a fleeting chat with dp.
Serving up food and drink to people when they demand it, smiling through the same cheesy jokes I've heard before, dealing with tantrums over how their food is served and then having to clear up the mess is not that different to what I do during the day at home.

So no. It is not a fucking break.

YANBU - in thinking it as long as you don't say it!!

There is a world of difference between working when your children are being looked after in the day by someone else to working in the only time in your day that the kids are sleeping and you could have relaxed!!! I know how you feel. I always worked evenings until the kids started school and it drove me mad not having any free time. I don't think I was very patient with the children as a result but you have to do what suits you financially!

YANBU. Surely your DC are in bed for most of your work hours so you would definitely get a break at home. And you don't get to see your DH in the evenings either.

I would concede that I do get a break at work, but I have a 9-5.30 office job.

YANBU.

They were probably trying to be friendly, but can see why you're fed up of hearing it.

At work a few weeks ago we all had to say what we loved about our jobs....cue super naff comments like "the challenge", "professional development", "communicating with my colleagues", "because I'm passionate about accounting" etc. Vomit.

We were all thinking it, but no one dared say that we only came into work for the money and that if we won the lottery, doubt we'd be jogging into work every morning for the "challenge".

But if I hear the phrase "oh, you must come to work for a break" I might just snap!

You could respond by saying 'well it certainly isn't for the witty repartie and intellectual stimulation if that last comment is anything to go by.'

I used to get the opposite - I work part time and used to get 'what are you doing on your day off then?' And I'd feel like saying 'what do you mean day off? This is my day off - at least I have the outside chance of a lunch break, get to go for a poo without an audience and have adult conversation!' And I only had 2 preschoolers at that time.

So I'd probably make a comment like that to you but it would be meant as stealth said - empathy for how bloody hard it is with small children

Ooh dear, I actually say that to people myself when they ask why I don't work full time. I don't deal face to face with the public though otherwise it might not be as stressful. Having 4 yr old twins does not make for a quiet life, I need earmuffs!

I agree that people are probably trying to acknowledge how much hard work it must be with 3dcs at home all day. However, I totally get how difficult it is to respond to the same comments with any degree of enthusiasm. I used to get it working a lottery till many moons ago - any slip that jammed the punter would immediately say 'must be the winning one!' I can feel my blood boiling just thinking about it!