What is the point?

[TamsinTiger]

My birthday is on wednesday, something I have to accept, but this one is a milestone.

I do not expect anything really just for my family to be happy.

My husband has said over the last few days that he would be taking my sons out shopping..he had many opportunities and decided not to until today. When snow was thick on the ground,he said that they had to go out with him at 12, but in the meantime many of my sons friends had phoned and wanted them to join in the snow fun. I said could the shopping trip be a bit later or if he knew what they wanted to buy, could he not buy it.?

My husband then said.."I don't care do what you F*ing like , I just do not care"

I said that I just wanted my sons to have fun, and I would rather that than a forced trip to buy me presents..

I have been trying to decide all afternoon if this is now time for a divorce chat?

Oh and my sons had fun in the snow..I do not want presents bought in such a way that it was presented. But I suppose I am ignoring the "I do not care statement" silly me.

Wow, what a bunch of miseries on this thread. Women are allowed birthdays, even with children. Shock, horror, woman has one day a year which is about her as a person not a wife and mother. Aargh. Even if this were not the case, if it is not acceptable for you DH to swear, it doesn't matter what he swore about.

Do you want my overview of other threads springy ?

Style & Beauty if you're considering buying a Babyliss Big Hair, TV Addicts if you want yo bitch about One Born Every Minute, Childbirth if you haven't yet decided on a home birth

profound wisdom imo

Thankyou,

But have to say that as a human being in need of support(not actually knowing the forum rules) it totally failed as a forum for mothers..for me..some of the posts were so nasty and judging..the fact that someone wanted to share an experience and had to then endure abuse is not really acceptable. Seeing as my post was about abuse in my home

Anyway I suppose that is life! but not really happy about that.

I really , hope that , that if someone comes on this forum and is vulnerable that the bullies are curtailed.

Just wondering why my last message was moderated?

Moderated how?

Ta sin, I expect too be treated like a queen on my birthday. It's not about the money - id settle for home made cards, burnt toast in bed and a rental DVD if I had to, but it's about someone showing me that they really care about me. So I get why you are upset.

This section though is a very harsh one and people sometimes IMO use it to release tension. Don't take it personally and don't leave us. Please.

No sign of a moderated message here - normally it says 'message deleted by Mumsnet' if someone's really crossed the line.

Tamsin, I do know what you mean about unwritten rules, I spent the first month on here lurking and reading old threads, it's only in AIBU that the fierce stuff happens. And Feminism... But don't give up on us, please, we're mostly ok, honest! Happy big birthday btw - I'm assuming it's one of those that ends in an 0?

People here like to react angrily first and read posts later. Don't take it too personally, OP (it can't possibly be personal, as the attention the abusive people have paid to your actual post suggests they probably didn't read your username properly either!)

FWIW I agree with you. Putting off the trip and scheduling it when he knew it wasn't appropriate is passive aggressive. In fact, it's bullying. If it had been honest behaviour he wouldn't have reacted the way he did.

Women who would like some time, love, effort and recognition on their birthday bring out the bitch meanie in AIBU. No idea why. I wish people would stop with the ban on fun. NO, Christmas and birthdays are for CHILDREN. No one else must have fun, NO.