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To find "food talk" the most boring, irritating conversational topic in the world??

61 replies

Schizophonic · 05/02/2012 20:54

Kind of inspired by another thread but CHRIST does this piss me off. Why are women so OBSESSED with food? I've recently changed jobs but at my last job a woman I used to work closely with used to bang on and on and on about food daily.
"hmm what to have for lunch?" / "what's everyone having for dinner?" / "I'm wondering what to make for dinner tomorrow" / "what did everyone have for breakfast?" / "where shall we go for lunch?" / "has anyone tried those things from asda?"
She was supposedly on a diet so would bring little boxes of shit bird food which she would nibble on all day and bottles of water with some kind of seed floating around but would then eat a mars bar on the way home and devour a massive curry in the evening. But the topics remained the same - food - diets - dinner - lunch - breakfast - chocolate - bird food - atkins - weightwatchers - gone up 2lbs - gone down half a pound ......

Anyway I recently changed jobs and in the staff room I again find myself surrounded with this ridiculous food obsession! "oo what are you eating Mags? how many points is that? how much have you lost this week? ooo look only 200 calories in this, oooo I LOVE fruit I could shag the fuck out of an apple right now, oooo you shouldn't be eating cereal bars, oooo did you know bread is actually REALLY bad for you? even the brown bread?"

ffs sad bastards. Why are people so obsessed??? I can't escape it? wanna lose weight? burn off more calories than you eat. It really is that simple.

OP posts:
smoggii · 05/02/2012 21:54

I'm one of the people you hate, I am obsessed with food and i talk about it a lot, diet food, fancy food, M&S two dine in for a tenner, and beans on toast. I am always cheating on a diet and I'm part of my team 'fat' club which i know irritates the hell out of the non members on my team.

I get sick of hearing some of the people on my team talking about their drinking escapades, their knitting patterns, eastenders etc because they are things I have no interest in. I think that's life though people are different and have different interests.

If you're not interested in the chat tune it out, it's done easily enough.

It's boring and irritating to you but not to me YABU

answering against my better judgement as this appears to me to be a fat bashing thread in disguise

OnlyANinja · 05/02/2012 21:59

YANBU to find it boring.

YABU to say that food talk is generally boring - some people like different things to you, presumably you've noticed this?

YANBU in particular to find talking about dieting (rather than talking about food that is nice) boring.

OnlyANinja · 05/02/2012 22:01

Infact women just irritate me in general, they're so bloody boring!

Off you fuck then, almost all women around here.

redpanda13 · 05/02/2012 23:44

YANBU
What really pisses me off is this woman in my class who is now eating "healthy food" to lose weight. So every day she has a salad. These are her words. She looks down her nose at my "unhealthy food". Her salad is cold pasta with tuna and mayonnaise. Sometimes it is cold pasta with cheese and mayonnaise. There may be shreds of vegetables in it but you sure as hell cannot see them. I want to shout "it is not a fuckin salad". She witters on "healthy, healthy, diet, diet, healthy" and I watch her eat this glutinous shit.
IT IS NOT A FUCKING SALAD!!!!

Nineflowers · 05/02/2012 23:53

Diet talk doesn't bore me half so much as endless food pR0n from foodies. My morbidly obese niece is constantly posting on Facebook about what she is baking/cooking. It is beyond boring hearing about yet another batch of 'cupcakes' whatever the feck they are. Don't even get me started on the whole 'cupcake' thing...

I just long for her to talk about healthy eating. But it's all how much booze she necked, and cakes she's eaten and all her 'friends' encouraging her, and enabling it, instead of saying "FFS have you seen the pictures of yourself, lately?" Talk about elephant in the corner...

I think she'd be way healthier if she forgot all about food, instead of making it a fetish. But no-one dare burst the bubble.

SinicalSanta · 05/02/2012 23:58

I was with you til you said women are irritating and boring.

that'll win you no friends.

EllenParsons · 06/02/2012 02:29

Hahaha, I actually chortled at "oooo I LOVE fruit I could shag the fuck out of an apple right now" - really made me think of my mum! She annoys me in the way she constantly talks about food because she goes on and on trying to make people think she hardly eats anything or only eats very healthy food, e.g. she will tell you about five times "I love FRUIT!" or "I went out for lunch and had a lovely SOUP" (she seems to think soup is the most virtuous food on the planet), she will constantly rant about what other people have had, tell you what she isn't going to eat, loudly tut if offered a choc (but then bloody take and eat a few anyway!) Does my head in. So, YANBU!

Whatmeworry · 06/02/2012 07:50

She was supposedly on a diet

There we have it......

Grumpla · 06/02/2012 07:59

There's a big difference between talking about food and talking about diets.

I love food and cooking, therefore I quite like talking about them. In my last office-based job it provided a useful topic of conversation as everyone else I worked with was older than me and not many of them shared my politics / other interests.

But talking about diets / weight etc bores the shit out of me. I don't give a monkeys what I weigh, I certainly don't give a shit what other people weigh.

I therefore take the simple step of not engaging with those conversations.

I really don't see how you get soooo wound up about it. Just tune it out.

lubeybooby · 06/02/2012 08:19

I had 250 calories worth of coco pops this morning

hackmum · 06/02/2012 08:29

I so agree. This stuff is endlessly boring. Why do women do it? It's because once you're on a diet, all you can think about is food. The whole concept of a diet is bizarrely counterproductive, but none of them have worked this out yet.

The one thing worse than women talking about their diets is women listing their own physical imperfections. I used to share a flat at university with women who'd do this: one would go, "Oh, my bum's too big" and another one would say, "But you've got lovely legs, mine are like cricket stumps," and a third would say "I hate my breasts, they're too small," endlessly, endlessly, on and on. I didn't use to join in, which probably made them think I was delighted with how I looked - I wasn't, but I couldn't think of anything duller than going on about it all the time.

These days I seem to have an awful lot of very boring conversations about which schools we should send our children to:-(

GetOrfMoiiLand · 06/02/2012 08:39

Hmm - I agree that the diet conversation is boring, but not womens conversation in general. Why make that extraordinary statement on a site which is predominantly used by women? Hmm

And to be honest, I work with blokes, and they are equally as dull and boring about their diets. Combine that with rugby statistics and no wonder I tune out of the whole conversation.

NotVictoriaBeckham · 06/02/2012 08:52

I agree that diet talk is dull. However what irritates me more than the dullness is how misinformed people are about food thinking that fruit=virtue does not mean the more you eat the better. As with everything else, all things in moderation.
Speaking from bitter experience here as I have type 1 diabetes which inevitably makes me the recipient of unwanted and ill informed advice on a daily basis Confused

MitchieInge · 06/02/2012 08:58

would rather talk about diets than attempt to engage op (if posts on this thread are any indication of sharpness of wit) in conversation - am already bored and irritated!

CarrieInAnotherTWOBabiTWINS · 06/02/2012 08:59

Yanbu it drives me bonkers

Kennyp · 06/02/2012 09:00

I have a friend who is always on a diet and telling me that she had "a weight watchrs ready meal and two beers for dinner last night". I can't even react to that. She reckons she's a size twelve but if she is then i am liam neeson's secret lover who is not very good with secrets

If we were discussing the virtues of yorkshire pudding vs eclairs i'd be all for a chat though.

(am not leeson's lover unfortunately)

vezzie · 06/02/2012 09:03

EllenParsons - that made me laugh, my mil is like this. Every time we go out to eat she goes ON AND ON about how the meal is far too much for her and I desperately long to say "well don't eat the chips then" or "you could have a starter or a soup instead" or "what about, crazy idea, not having pudding?!"

When she comes to our house I don't serve the food onto plates but offer serving dishes around and sadistically enjoy watching her brain explode as she is forced to take responsibility for taking the amount she actually wants to eat (not out loud of course, I mean she takes a normal amount and nobody cares but her).

I think the OP is unintentionally fat bashing, she says she has ishoos and I am sorry about that but there is an undercurrent of disgust to this, not just about the inane burbling on, but towards people who are not size 6 daring to eat anything at all, ever, let alone in public. I think MIL has this fear and shame about eating, but is forced to do it because of the peculiar quirk that if you don't eat you die (sorry) and so is endlessly pretending the food has somehow been forced upon her in apology for this disgusting habit.

TeacupTempest · 06/02/2012 09:05

Well yorkshires are more versatile as they can be sweet or savoury whereas eclairs can only be sweet...so yorkshires come out on top.

aldiwhore · 06/02/2012 09:07

YANBU to find the obsessive food talk boring as fuck.

YABU to think that weightloss is as easy as you think!

I talk about food at Fat Club and I try not to harp on about syn values and my daily intake every second of the day (apart from on here), I do know many who just don't shut up about it, and yup, its very very annoying.

Cupcake talk makes me want to kill people.

Kennyp · 06/02/2012 09:11

teacuptempest.
Thanks for input. I have never had YP for pudding although would forfeit mains and just have eclairs if pushing is coming to shoving.

Carbs not at all anonymous

kickingking · 06/02/2012 09:34

I find this incredibly irritating as well. A female friend of my DHs is food obsessed. Her FB status updates are all about what she has had or will be having for breakfast, lunch and dinner. She will list the ingredients in her home cooked meals and take photos of her dinner and post them on FB.

An actual conversation with her will mostly consist of her telling me how healthily she eats, how much exercise she takes, how GOOD she is being, and how amazing she feels because of all her healthy eating and exercising. She still smokes though Confused

I am prepared to admit I have a low tolerance of 'food talk' because I have T1 diabetes, and I refuse to get obsessed by food and also because a lot of conversations about food seem to turn into a round of 'tell kickingking what she can and can't eat and how my auntie lost all her limbs because of diabetes'

Seriously, food talk is the most boring topic of conversation ever. I actually avoid this friend of DHs as I can't bear her food obsession.

NorthernChinchilla · 06/02/2012 09:39

YANBU- every single woman in my office is weight/diet obsessed, to the extent that they've actually brought weighing scales into the office. And not tidied away in the cloakroom or anything, in the main, actual office by their desks.

Three of them are now getting married this year, so I expect the diet bollocks talk to go stratospheric.

MrsBeakman · 06/02/2012 09:50

Which topics do you like to start conversations about at work OP and how do your colleagues respond? Maybe they don't find your favourite topics very interesting? I remember years ago when i was in 6th form and on a diet one of my classmates told me it was boring to talk about diets all the time. I'm sure it was, but I then had to point out that talking endlessly about her driving lessons wasn't that riveting either.

Hammy02 · 06/02/2012 09:50

YANBU
I used to work right next to a woman that literally told me how many points were in everything she ate. The chuffing WW book was permanently welded to her hand. She even asked what I ate & told me how many points were in it! Idiot.

PushyDad · 06/02/2012 09:53

At restaurants people will ask me how my food is. I often struggle to find something other than 'ok' or 'delicious' to say. The food is warm. It tastes nice. What else can one say about food?