DS is 1 and a bit. DH is a SAHD during the week and works nights at weekends, I work 4 days/week and take care of DS the other 3 days.
I am just over half way through a PhD which I desperately need to finish (due to work contract and progression). Deadlines looming.
Family member has offered me their house at end of Feb for a week. Plan would be I would head down on Monday and DH would bring DS on Thurs, with family watching him fri/sat/sun day time and me having meals cuddles and play with him before bed, during breakfast and at lunch.
I can get large chunk of write up done that week leaving me more free time with DS and DH during our AL in May.
DH came up with the plan in the first place...
Also have an ongoing health worry that is being swiftly investigated and consultant gynae and GP has told me will lead to (yet more) surgery sometime in March. DH's DF is currently dying of cancer.
Friend has just told me I'm being 'indulgent' for leaving DS for 3 nights....'especially given that DH is under so much pressure'. Said friend has ranted ++ about me working in the past, Including calling me a selfish mother and telling me my husband is a 'saint' for caring for DS during the week.
AIBU to think that this is a good plan and that I can get more done in that week than in 3 months of snatched afternoons?
And more importantly should I tell friend to fuck right off?