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to think my ex unreasonable?

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mrsworsinger · 05/02/2012 20:06

Has not as yet paid maintenance now all of sudden suggests that he should starting paying some amounts (never mind I got CSA involved and want them to take money out of his account cos I just dont trust him) and that he will handout receipts and some months might be lighter than others because he is off sick this week..... Oh and that its ok that he should be having the children every other weekend Fri to Sun but because he is unwell he can text me last minute thurs night or fri night and say he cant have them for the whole weekend but wants them 3 hours between times that suit him both days (none of which involve any meal times god help that he might have to do something) and I have to oblige because we have a contact order that writes I must make the children available to him alternate weekends - you can see where my life is going.... I am having a right moan and already I feel better but what is the general opinion am I being unreasonable to think him unreasonable.

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delilahlilah · 05/02/2012 20:13

I think you need to get the contact order re-assessed as I assume these circumstances were not taken into account at the time? One afternoon for 3 hours maybe, but he can't hold you to ransom. Get legal advice, and make him reasonable offers. Keep everything he sends you declining access as you may need it to support your case. If the contact order is unrealistic it needs to be amended for the children's benefit.

neuroticmumof3 · 05/02/2012 20:26

He sounds like hard work. No wonder you want a moan.

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 05/02/2012 20:37

You have made the children available - he's choosing not to have them. You don't have to be around all weekend for him to choose when he wants them and doesn't want them. If he doesn't want to pick them up on the Friday - tough luck.

I have no idea what you mean about 'hand out receipts' but I'd stick with the CSA route if I were you.

Take time to enjoy the fact that he's your EX

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