Signing a card...

[numbertaker]

A quickie....my FIL was widdowed some years ago, he now has a lady friend. my DH is really struggeling to get over his mothers death, but he is ok with the ladyfriend.

Anyway since my FIL has been with her he now insists of signing all cards from x and x , rather than from Dad or Grandad. My DH just got a birthday card signed from x and x. I find that totally not ok, I am not even sure that the ladyfriend knows he is doing it.

My DH is oh let it go, but my DC's will get cards signed fro x and x. I want to point this out, DH says I am a trouble causer. AIBU

I think Startail has it actually. Very empathetic post.

Perhaps approach in a light hearted way. Something like, 'the dc were wondering who Fred was, I had to laugh and tell them "that's grandad!"'

Its Dad/grandad writing the cards. Its not the lady-friend, she is sweet and we like her. Its not the relationship or her at all. She is accepted and liked. We even will be happy if they marry. Its the strange thing that he always signed love Dad, or love Grandpa. He is a good grandpa, Dad. Relationship problems are not the issue.

She is NOT writing the cards. Maybe I am being a little touchy, but I would be sad if my Dad or Mum started sending cards signed, lots of love, mildred or Tom (real names have been changed to protect the innocent).

Its not a big deal, just slightly odd, from my perspective. Anyway going to say NOTHING as its a pandora box, I am leaving well alone.

It is odd.. Dad and xxx would be fine.. but to suddenly change to using his first name is a bit weird.

Yes - if it's Fred & Ginger I'd be hurt. Now being with Ginger doesn't suddenly stop him being Dad/Grandad. I would need to ask him why he's suddenly stopped wanting to be Dad/Grandad - haven't you all lost enough with losing DH's Mum without this changing too :(

YABU. He's probably never been in the position of sending a card from him and a SO who's not his wife. Maybe he wants to include his GF, and feels Grandpa & Ginger sounds odd, so he's used his first name too? He's the one sending the card; he gets to choose how to sign it.