F***ing god damned facebook and ex"!!!!!

[MyLittleMiracle]

Well, has to be said, he changed his name AGAIN, But how the fuck has he managed to get onto my facebook? His friend request must have been accepted,or so i thought to be able to send me a message!! God damned hate it!! He also seems to know one hell of a lot about what is going on in MY LIFE! Wondering if he has hired someone (something he would do) and going on about not running off and taking him anywhere! What the cheek. He has no RIGHT to know where i live after him being so abusive! I just want him out of my life! Have not heard anything from his solicitor though and how the hell does he seem to know so much!!!

Stop enjoying the drama and delete your Facebook.

NC again, don't start threads in AIBU, go to the non-searchable OTBT or the actual topic (housing/money/lone parents/whatever). Post a thread without so many identifying details - or better still, none.
Only use FB to keep in touch with your friends abroad and post no details of your life at all.

I think you're verging on hysterical tbh - someone hacked into your fb and accepted your ex as a friend under a fake name? Why?

Is there anyone in real life you can talk to about this? You sound really really distressed and some of the things you are saying don't make sense, either because we don't know half the story or because they are not happening in the way you perceive them. Do you have support from your mum even if you wouldn't live there?

In the nicest possible way, you are lurching from one crisis to the next your life is one long drama.

Step back.

Off facebook.

Off MN

And concentrate on RL.

I would suggest you go to your GP as well

It all sounds very complicated [brain hurts]

I'm not on facebook because of a situation not dissimilar to yours. Good friends know why, and email me instead.. You might miss out on a few photos but your life will be more secure as a result.

If your friend can facebook, she can also send and read emails, which doesn't give the world access to your photos and discussions.

I hate all thats happening. i done all that was suggested security wise on facebook. I deleted a friend to see if they could message me but they couldnt. Seems he must have guessed my password. This one he wont though!

BREATHE.......you sound stressed.

As others have said, delete your accounts, start again using a false name.

Only come on MN for fun & general support and STOP using RL names if you want to stay anonymous!

All my privacy settings are set to max

They don't seem to be set on anything here OP. Too much info.
Sorry to say it but if your FB page is as open as this you should be a bit more discreet.
Crikey, Sophie, Claire, Northampton, namechanged and the rest.

:(

i am struggling to understand why you would change your username here, set your privacy settings to max and then proceed to name two of your friends and also the town you have moved away from, never mind telling us all that sophie is on a gap year in africa. why go to all that trouble to then make yourself really identifiable here?

If he appears to know so much about your current situation, have you considered that someone in your life may be talking to him and giving him information?

I have no idea who you are normally.

I woud say though that i have facebook. I have a false name on there for very similar reasons. I only accept very very few people whom i know in RL.

I would suggest that if you are as indiscreet on Facebook as you are on here then it is probably a result of your own indiscretion that has caused him to find you.

If you are as scared or worried about him knowing your business then you need to alter your own behaviour.
I don't know of the other dramas but if this has become a pattern then it is time to take a step back, delete all of these applications give yourself some time and then start again.

?? Why was I deleted?

Are your FB settings really up to the max? Coz mine are and all you can see is my name, profile picture and the fact I'm female. Nothing else is on display unless you're my friend on fb.

Like others said, if you really don't want to be tracked down either on here or FB check out your privacy settings anddon't name names, towns and close friends on a gap year. And maybe get this thread deleted. And if you name change on here and someone "outs" you (because you've overshared) deny it's you!

I probably should have denied its me. I just know what his mum is like. She done it to one of her other sons ex's, got a private detective to follow them and then tried to get custody (back then it was custody) He doesnt know sophie (i went to school with her) and claire is my legal adivce since i left, again doesnt know i know a claire. All i had was a couple of very close friends up there and havent named them. Suspect he guessed my password to FB. Now changed it! And computers, and norton internet security on it etc etc. Such a fucking mess, pardon the language but it is!

Checked my settings they are:
Who can post on my wall Is set at only me, who can send me messages, only friends, only friends of friends can send me requests, only friends can look me up by name or contact info, and no one can see posts made by others on my profile! How can i make it more secure?

how can you make it more secure? deactivate your account.

If you are as afraid as you say you are, get off facebook.

Simples.

Change your email to one you don't use much on fb
You can search for people on fb if you know their email. Also you may find one of your friends is a mutual friend. Or if your email is in his address book you'll come up as 'someone you may know'

I am off facebook now, and have a new email address, but i still want to be on here to you guys, you have really supported me through this and i will be forever grateful to you all. Its a great source of advice and information too.

whats will all the bloody deletions?