To be pissed off with DH for no reason at all?

[FootprintsInTheSnow]

I know I am!

Case for the prosecution:

• 4 days of late finishes (10.00 pm/ 10.30 pm/ 7.30 pm/ 8 pm) - which is the point at which I fell out of my tree, so Fri was home before 7 - although I harumphed and was not impressed, as I had a much easier day myself on Friday.
• He looks perilously close to glazing over when updated on my 33wk bump's braxton hicks/SPD/ kicks and so on.
• He fiddles with his iPhone during OBEM ( and callously missed last weeks episode, despite being told in no uncertain terms that OBEM is fulfilling the role of antenatal classes).
• Was having a (long) poo while me and DC were waiting for him to get extra snow clothes out of the car...
• ... Which was parked somewhere daft, since he'd given his friend a lift home last night after drinks, got stuck in a snow drift, got some passer by to push him out, and finally got home past midnight to find our road impassable.

-... As a consequence of all the above looks knackered - and I just know will get Sunday night sulks

• As a consequence of my reaction to all of the above, has accused me of having a bad attitude
• Only has time for sex on weekends.
• Brings laptop to bed, where it glows and glows while I'm trying to get to sleep or have a conversation with him.

Case for the defence:

• Got me flowers on Friday, and came home early, because I sulked.
• Has fetched me my first coffee every day this week (and a bowl of muesli too this morning)
• Took DC out yesterday morning. Came back with Orange juice and bagels.
• Didn't grumble about driving around picking up new baby eBay treasures, and braved TESCO to buy little ickle baby clothes with £5 off and a party present. Was much more tolerant than me to the DCs helpful contribution to the above (I repeatedly threeatened to cancel Christmas and Sundays and such like).
• Helped DS2 do 'cooking' while I supervised the actually competent DD and DS.
• Took them all out in the snow.
• Has got them all rounded up on the sofa watching a DVD downstairs, while I MN.

What's the verdict, ladies of the jury?

OBEM - One Born Every Minute - fly on wall programme about birth

Yup, spot on, but sometimes, just sometimes there is funto be had & a little gentle patting on the shoulder given, rather than a smug 'I didn't whine like you, dearie me' approach. The clue is, I feel, in the title of this thread...

I am carrying on as normal!

I'm working and keeping three kids under 8 going (homework/feeding/laundry/school run/cleaning/ emotional support/ engaging activities to prevent them tearing chunks out of each other and the house/ dental appointments/ GP appointments/ gastroenteritis/ birthday celebrations - the usual - although DH has volunteered for next weeks round of pre-half term school events).

SPD isn't exactly 'sky falling in' but it means I have to be much,much on the ball and in control of the situation. I absolutely can't run after DS1 if he's silly, or carry DS2 to school if he tantrums. Towards the end of the day, I'd normally be sprinting up and down the stairs, one in the bath one doing homework etc - so I've had to adapt the routines to minimise how much I have to do the stairs.

Of course I have a bloody support crew. It's not the fricking immaculate conception - the DC are a joint endeavour for the whole family. The real and serious point is that we are very stretched at the moment - both DH and I - and I'm not really sure what to do about it. Since Christmas we've oscillated between me trying to be superwoman and do it all, and DH trying to be superman and take on a significant chunk of my normal role in addition to his normal load. Neither is really effective or satisfactory

OBEM - because DH has a little bit of a doctor phobia.

we've had 3 very smooth deliveries - but I honestly think he'd find it very profoundly stressful if I was e.g. Taken into theatre. I'm insisting we watch it so that he is aware of the wide spectrum of 'normal' deliveries.

I had a little giggle at this post, mainly because I knew that you had to be pregnant before I even opened it. YAB a little U but no more than me - im 29 weeks and I have SPD too and some days I feel that just by breathing my OH is trying to annoy me (today is one of these days nothing and I mean nothing he has done has been right) its a hormone thing and thank the good lord it will pass soon

I don't know any man that would choose to watch OBEM. Mine would run away!

Bloody hell you sound hard work!!!!

this

he sounds like he has an additional child's tantrums to cope with, as well as everything else

poor sod

Sorry what is SPD?

Support crew? Fucking hell it's pregzilla

yay!

Sorry I'm not one to feed other people's neurotic crises. Not being able to walk because of SPD- valid complaint and deserving of sympathy. Hubby not watching a crappy birth programme or fawning over 'bump' and braxton hicks- hysteria IMHO

My DH loves OBEM!

I suppose the fact that he's a doctor who used to work in a gynae department helps his interest...

OP - you do seem a bit like hard work, but I'm sure day-to-day you're a lovely wife and mum and have just focused on the more negative points for this thread.

I've never had SPD, but you have my fullest sympathy as it does not seem like anything nice at all to suffer from.

See, now I don't think she did focus on the negatives. I honk the negatives are tinged with humOur (despite the clearly exhausting, heavy load) & the positives, is case for the defence are v sweet & I'm only surprised OP hasn't been accused of stealth boasting!

You sounded a bit U until EauDe started in with her "pregnancy's not an illness, you deserve no support from your husband and to be derided by complete strangers on the Internet" saw.

Now you sound like a dream wife in comparison to sour-puss twisted-knickers bitchiness.

I agree cheeky :)

Firstly THINK not HONK (bloody phone/ fat fingers!)

Secondly, exactly AThing, the martyrs have a way of putting everything in perspective!

Wasn't what I said at all was it but don't let that get in the way of a good bitchfest!!

I thought the OP was directing some humour AT herself.

I did not carry on as normal whilst pg actually - like the OP, I did everything I usually did whilst hobbling around slowly and in pain, throwing up daily and heaving the biggest bump ever around, losing sight of my ankles for the last three months due to chronic water retention etc etc etc bloody boring etc. And however boring it is to hear about it is twenty times as borning to live through it.

Only has time for sex on weekends.

And you're 33 weeks pregnant?

You both rock.

I think at 33 weeks the op is probably less rock more roll

sooo... what is SPD?

SPD is pain in the pelvis.

SPD - bad

'Support crew' - cringe/pregzilla

This pregnancy in general - OP's choice

He's doing what he can, try and chill out.

- but I do have support crew. DH, CM gets kids from school when I work (& will sometimes help me juggle e.g. medical appointments), DMum& DDad will have them for easter hols to give me space to deliver the baby and spend some quiet time with the baby.

Disingenuous to put myself across as 'supermum' who gets eveything done by some superior force of will. If I didn't have a good team of people around me - I sure as hell wouldn't be gestating a fourth child - that'd be madness masochism ! I have the plumbing to grow the baby - but then the child is raised within the family and the community.