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To still be fucking fuming over these kids?

56 replies

thefroggy · 04/02/2012 19:30

Short version. A family moved in the street attached to ours (new build) about two years ago. Since then the brothers (about five of them) have made our life a fucking misery. One of the middle sons was so bloody awful to my son he didn't go out to play ever again with friends he'd grown up with. Two years ago. One of the younger sons I saw threatening to punch my daughter in the face when she was playing on her own garden, last summer.

They often stand in the road playing chicken. They dont move, they give us abuse.

If I go to the shop (walking with my kids, they swear at us, spit at us etc)

My mum has been driving for over thirty years. Today we came back from the weekly shop. We rounded the corner, these kids stood in the road as normal. Except today we had snow, lots of. One in particular, He ran in front of us, grabbed a snowball and pelted it at the windscreen. My mum swerved to avoid him, the car skidded, we ended up on the pavement, nearly hit another car, any further we would have been down a bank and through someone's front window. Then the car got stuck. My mum was almost crying.

I called him a stupid boy, he pissed himself laughing and told me to fuck off. He's probably younger than my dd (8).

I reported them to the police, our road is very dangerous without snow/ice. But what good will it do? Nothing. These kids dont care.

Like the police dont have enough to do, but in fairness, they did send community officers down.

I've had enough of this family, I really have.

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thefroggy · 04/02/2012 21:50

Right, firstly, like I said the mother was approached and said "aw, boys will be boys".

Secondly, I am fucked off to the far side of fuck and then some more with the little nice children.

I have had two years worth of being spat at and sworn at when I dare to go to the shop.

The little feckers nearly had us in a car accident tonight. NO MORE.

I will report, report and report again. I feel awful because the police have much more to deal with, but this IS going to stop.

So help me gawd...they can bring mum, dad, and uncle mick. I've had enough.

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microserf · 04/02/2012 22:22

document it all, complain to the police and to the council. if they are housing association, complain to their housing association.

sounds a bit hard core i know, but i've just watched a really nice family nearby be tormented by neighbours from hell. neighbours from hell who are housing association tenants, and the housing association was NOT pleased to find out about it and has started taking statements from neighbours.

Sevenfold · 04/02/2012 22:27

oh dear op I feel for you, we had 5 years of being targetted by the shit family up the road.
It has stopped now, and they are on the verge of eviction(it stopped because ds is now bigger than the dad)
you have to make a note of everything report to the police everything how ever small.
you have to keeep on and on and on and on and on.

thefroggy · 04/02/2012 23:00

I've just been thinking, about the little lad in particular. They are little shits. Horrible children. But, something must have made them that way. Would it be wrong, the next time he effs and blinds at me to call him over and ask what his beef is with us? Nicely? Non confrontational type thing?

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IUseTooMuchKitchenRoll · 04/02/2012 23:09

It wouldn't be wrong but it would probably be expecting too much to get get a decent answer.

I agree with the others. Write down everything you can remember with dates and times, and then start writing down every single little thing you can. Encourage your neighbours to do the same.

I would also call social services about a child who is allowed to stand in the road in bad conditions.

Sevenfold · 04/02/2012 23:12

thefroggy don't
he might seem nice, ours did, he came to our house, had tea at our house, was ds's mate, yet he and his family put us through hell.
report it to the police, show no weakness. ever.
they will make your life worse

headfairy · 04/02/2012 23:16

Don't feel bad about calling the police froggy. If someone doesn't intervene in these kids lives (and it doesn't look like the parents will) then swearing and spitting at people could easily turn in to fighting, mugging and all sorts on criminality.

ChasTittyBeltUp · 04/02/2012 23:22

Kick the little shits up the arse and then if their parents come moaning....simply repeat.

NOT kidding. Only way to deal with parasites.

thefroggy · 04/02/2012 23:24

Ok, I just had a moment of madness there, says she who has extra cats tonight because my neighbour moved and left her cat here..in the snow, so guess which house he's sleeping in?

I am a knob, I try to see the good in everyone.

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Sevenfold · 04/02/2012 23:24

ffs we tried that(well shouted) they then tried to be the victims.
REPORT EVERY EVENT TO THE POLICE

Heswall · 04/02/2012 23:25

There is no way I would endanger myself by driving my car off the road to avoid hitting somebody stood in the road voluntarily.

You need to stare back and not move your car until they get out of the road.

WorraLiberty · 04/02/2012 23:30

Just because one parent complained and the Mum said 'boys will be boys'...doesn't mean you shouldn't complain to her and every single other parent who has been upset by these kids.

I'm sure her 'boys will be boys' attitude would have to change (or at least it might) if she actually knew what her kids were up to and how many people they are pissing off.

If she doesn't know then how can she do anything?

Fair enough she might not be bothered but you have to tell her.

Why suffer in silence?

thefroggy · 04/02/2012 23:33

It wasn't me heswall, I cant drive. It was my mum, she saw him and swerved. It's a child. Her first instinct, avoid him. He thought it was funny.

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Heswall · 04/02/2012 23:35

I know thefroggy, she'll know better for next time Wink

thefroggy · 04/02/2012 23:35

They know Worra, they've had lots of complaints via the HA.

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Sevenfold · 04/02/2012 23:37

please please do report to the police, I would hate to see you posting 5 years later like I do.
take it very seriously

Aribura · 04/02/2012 23:39

Contact social services as well. They may not even do anything but if they check up on the mother then she may have a scare and do something (unlikely but hey.)

totallypearshaped · 04/02/2012 23:41

Video them and play it back to the council, the police and your MP, and post it up on youtube, everytime.
Start to gather evidence and names of all the neighbours who want them moved on.
So sorry you are living in fear.

Heswall · 04/02/2012 23:45

I would get CCTV put up outside the house, friends of ours did that as their cars kept getting scratched, very handy it was too.

thefroggy · 04/02/2012 23:48

My neighbour has cctv, I dont think they'll do much. Might send mum round [shrug]

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SlightlyJaded · 04/02/2012 23:49

Really feel for you Frog. I think you have to tell the mother about the car incident

  • just because she had a lazy fuck attitude last time, it doesn't mean she should escape the consequences of her failure to discipline her children.

And absolutely document everything, report everything, date and time everything and I'd also like to add film as much as you can as well. Make copies of what you film and show it to the mother, police, community officers and anyone else who doubts the level of anti-social behaviour of these kids.

SlightlyJaded · 04/02/2012 23:50

Ah x posted with all the other film advocates

NoOnesGoingToEatYourEyes · 04/02/2012 23:53

I can't even feel angry for you because it all just sounds so awful, it's made me feel miserable for you.

This sort of thing would be my worst nightmare.

Please do what has been suggested, call the police for every incident, call the council, call social services and keep a written record.

Speak to the other neighbours who have also had problems with them to tell them what you are doing.

Video as much as possible, even on your phone if they shout abuse as you walk to the shop.

I'm so sorry for you and for your poor mum.

thefroggy · 04/02/2012 23:58

Thank you, I will listen to advice, but i'm not going to let it bother me or the kids. What's the worst they can do after all? Grin

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Sevenfold · 05/02/2012 11:43

they will get older, that is the trouble and the harassment will get worse